THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: Me and my friend, we've been talking for five months now and things have been going perfectly fine. When he gets in Burke County, he's a total sweetheart, but when he goes back to Jefferson County where he stays at, he can be a pain in the you-know-what.
I was just wondering does he put on a front because he's around my brother and his family or expresses his true feelings when he's around me? Or (is it that) when he gets home he changes because he's with his homeboys? - 16-year-old Burke County girl
TEEN REPORTER KAMILLE BOSTICK SAYS: You don't know whether you're dealing with a chameleon, a copy or the real thing with this guy.
The only way to find out is to go to Jefferson County. Arrange a day where you can hang out with him among his friends and family and see how he treats you. If your presence changes things for the better, ask him to modify how he acts when you're not there.
If what you see in Jefferson County is a guy you don't like, don't respect and can't really understand, then it shouldn't matter how good he is to you when he travels to your home.
You don't want a part-time boyfriend. You don't need to be with someone who can't be himself 24-7, regardless of where he lives or whom he is around.
If you can't believe he'll treat you right under every circumstance, you're giving him permission to treat you wrong whenever he feels like it. Don't stay for that. Ask him to be the "real" him all the time or he can just settle on not being your boyfriend.
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