Missing man found

He met somebody at one of the many bars he frequents. Or he went on a big bender. Or was sick. Or it was nobody's business, because he's a grown man. Doesn't he have the right to do that?

Yeah, Corgi, he does. He also has a responsibility to let people know when he's not going to show up for work and even, to a smaller degree, school. And it's other people's responsibility to be concerned if he just disappears. If his irresponsibility led to public resources having to be used, the he has an obligation to explain what happened, even if it was totally innocuous..

You and I would do that, but not everybody feels that way. And no, adults have the right to just get up and leave. It is not against the law to quit your job and school and go on vacation or move. It is not illegal to get drunk for days on end. He's a grown man. He didn't ask anybody to report him missing. I think there's more to this story- as in maybe he has certain issues.

Okay, the husband/friend didn't come home and you don't know where he is hiding out..call the cops. (LOL)

Sorry, Corgi. I think you're being silly. In a civilized society, people have responsibilities to each other, even if you have the right to act like a complete cockroach, and plenty exercise that right without a single interior qualm. Nevertheless, if you're going to be part of society at one point, you should at least wave good-bye when you leave. SHOULD. And if you don't bother, then others have the right to ask you what happened if you turn up again.

He didn't do anything illegal. And no, employers and schools do not have the right to ask. It's called the right to privacy. It's called free will. If somebody doesn't show up for work and doesn't call in, after 72 hours, you terminate them for no-show and move on. People stop going to school all the time. He doesn't owe an explanation to anybody. And if he does has substance abuse issues or mental health issues-which is quite possible- that is his business. Behavior like that is the norm for alcoholics and drug addicts and mentally ill people. It is also not unusual for anybody,even without those issues, to get fed up with family members and go off to get away from them. Or get away from bill collectors. Or enemies. Or exwives. Or stalkers. It happens every day.

This guy has the right to do what he wants. If he decides to disappear for a few days, not show up for work, and decide that he no longer wishes to be employed, then he can do that.

Here's something you may not know- if someone is a competent adult, and they disappear, unless there is reason to believe that they are in danger, a landlord is not allowed to open an apartment to family members if the rent is paid up. They need a court order and/or an on-duty police officer to go into the apartment.

Maybe there was reason to be concerned about his whereabouts---

Ok corgi, you're right that "He didn't ask anybody to report him missing." I hope to God that if I go missing even on my own free will, someone cares enough to report it! You'd be singing a completely different tune if he was found dead somewhere and no one had reported him being gone.

Gee, when you don't show up for work or school and you haven't contacted anyone, the average human being will begin to think something bad has happened and you are in danger. Corgi, I hope you don't ever have a loved one go missing.

Ask my daughter.....she lived on her own and didn't contact me and couldn't get her to the door for a few hours and I knew she was there.....I called the cops....to let them know I was kicking the door in. She has never disappeared like that since then I promise. Believe me...she'll tell you, Momma is way worse than the POLICE! If I was fifteen minutes late coming home from work...they'd have the posse out because they'd be afraid they'd all starve to death and you can bet, none of them are starving!

No, I wouldn't. And if I did go missing, my family would not have it printed in the paper to look for me in certain bars. They find missing people dead all the time, especially if they have substance abuse or mental health issues. That's the nature of substance abuse and mental illness. Unless the police have a reason to suspect a problem, they won't look.

They printed it because that's where he frequents!!! They needed help in finding him. OMG! Thankfully you are NOT a part of my family! Just an FYI so you can't judge me, yes, I have dealt with addicition AND mental illness and yes, I have had to "walk" away but someone ALWAYS knew where I was!

Do you all get the feeling corgi has a friend or family member who has drug/mental issues??

Glad to see he's been found. I appreciate that the police promptly found a relative that had disappeared on his birthday, leaving no explanation, or contact information, or letting anyone in his family know what his plans were, wife or children. Fathers shouldn't leave their households for several day trips without letting a member of that household know what is going on, preferably a responsible adult family member. There was definitely something wrong with him, but his wife and children didn't know it yet.

Can a dog have drug/mental issues?

Geez, Corgi. You have control issues, don't you?

So glad he is ok. Sometimes people need to get away from everyone.

He can do what he wants and 'taint nobody's business.

If you have a missing relative, and you go to the police, the first thing they ask is "Do they have problems with drugs or alcohol?" and if you say "Yes" they pretty much tell you they won't look for them. Yes, I've had people that I loved that had serious drug problems. Just about everybody that grew up in the 60's and 70's does, especially if you grew up in California.

Someone cared, now he needs to pulled this a couple more times and they won't bother looking.

If you are fortunate enough to have never dealt with anyone who is alcoholic, drug addicted, or has mental health issues, then you are lucky indeed. Consider yourself very blessed.

Corgimom...he does have the right and it's not against the law, but I sure am glad that my society would try to figure out what happened to me, if it were me. Just sayin'....I'm glad Fiat Lux is in my corner so I'm not rotting in a ditch because no one cared to look for me. something bad could have happened to the guy - that's why normal human beings look for someone who doesn't show up to work or school. thank goodness he was just being irresponsible and wasn't cut up into pieces.

For those of you who are obviously talking out of the side of your mouth (corgimom) and don't have the first clue as to the back-story on this subject, here it is....Randy disappeared from his apartment earlier last week. (Not like him since he moved in.) He never contacted anyone, left behind specific items he would have had if he left for an evening or went to school (i.e. watch, cell phone, ect.). He had family, friends, teachers and others worried sick. Not sure if he was dead behind a shopping center or at the bottom of the Savannah River. (There was a man from Beech Island found there this week.) So, I think there was reason to be concerned about his location and well being.

I should have been a fourtune teller!! The day the story broke, I said , mabe he did not want to be found, mabe he hooked up with someone he met!!! Also some ''binges'' last as long as the money last!!!!

corgimom: You are right in that an adult can simply get up and leave without telling anyone. There is no law broken. As a matter of fact, once the police located him and if he said he did NOT want to be "found," the police have no other recourse than to close the case--they cannot even tell the interested third party where the individual is. I think what most folks are responding to is that in this day and age, someone should report the individual as missing to rule out an untimely death or being a 'john doe' in the emergency room. There is simply too much criminal activity going on--and this man is most fortunate that someone cared enough to file a missing person report. As for his reason for leaving his home, that is no one else's business and those who "want to know" should stop speculating about it.

Evans123, I noticed that, too, but it's ok, if it helps people to get on here and voice their opinions, even if they are not always consistent, maybe it's still therapeutic.

Evans123, I have no idea what you are talking about, but since you're on here too, I'm wondering about your life. But thanks for your concern about me.