Couple went to Bible 'boot camp'

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COLUMBIA --- Each Sunday afternoon in May, Gov. Mark Sanford and his wife hosted five other couples at the executive mansion for a spiritual "boot camp." Topics discussed during the hour-and-a-half-long sessions included forgiveness and "not loving your wife as Christ loved the church."

Group leader Warren "Cubby" Culbertson did not tell the other four couples what he and his wife, Susan, had known for months: The governor was having an affair with a woman in Argentina.

When Jenny Sanford confronted her husband in January after finding a letter to "Maria" among his official papers, the governor turned to Mr. Culbertson. For nearly six months, Mr. Culbertson has been the first couple's spiritual counselor -- and their secret keeper.

The Sanfords "passed" the Culbertsons' course with flying colors. A week later, Mrs. Sanford asked her husband to leave their home.

Mr. Culbertson said he believed his friend when he said that this was his only marital transgression. He thinks Mr. Sanford was simply caught off guard by "the power of darkness."

Mr. Culbertson also thinks that the only thing holding his friends' marriage together right now is "their vow to God."

"Because it's not feelings -- it's not emotions," Mr. Culbertson said, the smile fading from his tanned face. "For most Christians, at some point in your marriage, if you're married long enough, you do it because that's what we're called to do -- out of obedience instead of out of passion. And I think that's where Mark and Jenny are right now."

Mr. Culbertson and Mr. Sanford met in 1986, when Mr. Sanford was driving for Democratic gubernatorial candidate Phil Lader and Mr. Culbertson was a campaign volunteer. Mr. Culbertson, 51, owns a court reporting business and has been described as a pillar of the capital city's Christian community.

Mr. Culbertson helped found the Round Table, a Bible study that, according to a paper posted on the Web, offers men "a safe place to pose their questions." Mr. Sanford sought that spiritual refuge at least a few times.

When Mr. Sanford made his tearful public confession Wednesday, Mr. Culbertson was there.

During his mea culpa, the governor made numerous references to "God's law" and the sin of self. They were straight out of "Cubby's Talks" and the CDs the Culbertsons used in their "boot camp."

When Mr. Sanford cited the example of King David's infidelity and fall during a meeting with his cabinet on Friday, he was also drawing on the Culbertsons' sessions.

"One of the quotes we use in our couples course is, 'You can choose your sins, but you can't choose your consequences,' " Mr. Culbertson said. "We used to use David as an example of that. Mark may be the 2009 version of a good example."

Mr. Culbertson knows that Mr. Sanford, like any man, has weaknesses. In Mr. Culbertson's view, Mr. Sanford's chief frailty was his inability to deviate from his own agenda in the political arena.

But cheating?

"Some guys are wired such that violating God's design in this area, of women, is a real challenge to them," he said. "That's not in his DNA. That's why it's such a surprise."

OLD STATE LAW MAKES AFFAIR ILLEGAL

COLUMBIA --- South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford's admitted extramarital affair with a woman in Argentina could cost him his job and his marriage.


But, under an antiquated state law, it could also cost him up to $500 and a year in jail.


A state law that dates to at least 1880 says adultery is a crime, no matter where it occurred, and that adulterers "shall be severally punished." But constitutional attorney John Harrell of Charleston says it hasn't been used in decades, possibly not since 1907.


A spokeswoman for the State Law Enforcement Division says the agency can't waste limited money on trying to prosecute or arrest Mr. Sanford on such a charge. Jennifer Timmons notes there are more violent offenders to pursue.


-- Associated Press

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ugadawgbite
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ugadawgbite 06/30/09 - 05:26 am
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If she was doing things right

If she was doing things right in the bedroom he wouldn't have strayed. What right does she have to kick him out of the "Governor's Mansion"? It's not the first lady's mansion....

jackfruitpaper833
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jackfruitpaper833 06/30/09 - 06:39 am
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ugadawgbite with 4 kids get

ugadawgbite with 4 kids get real, she evidently was doing something right, HE chose to stray.

JBP
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JBP 06/30/09 - 06:44 am
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It wasn't the state mansion

It wasn't the state mansion she kicked him out of.
That old "if she was doing things right....." stuff is just a man's way of rationalizing his own lack of self control. Blame the wife? You've got to be kidding!

patriciathomas
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patriciathomas 06/30/09 - 07:13 am
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What? only one Sanford

What? only one Sanford article today? I thought the minimum was 7 per day.

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Doctor j. Dudleydoright 06/30/09 - 07:17 am
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I guess now he will say He

I guess now he will say He was forced onto the plane by the Devil' but I think it was the COOCHIE COOCHIE

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WAG 06/30/09 - 07:18 am
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You make me sick....blame the

You make me sick....blame the woman...must be a man that wrrote that.. if he could keep his pants zipped he would not be in this mess and an embarrassment to his state, wife and kids...
He is a pig.....I hope his wife stands up and leaves his sorry ---.
He has no integrity. Like I said he is a pig.....

jackfruitpaper833
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jackfruitpaper833 06/30/09 - 07:34 am
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Yeah and Jenny has all the

Yeah and Jenny has all the leverage, he can't do, say or act in any kind of a way. If he erks her she probably would say shut your so and so mouth you sorry no good such and such, I'll bust you in your mouth say something LOL. She holds the cards, he only holds the governorship. *SHRUGS* Step down Mark, step down.

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mosovich 06/30/09 - 08:08 am
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Typical hypocrite..

Typical hypocrite..

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CKB 06/30/09 - 08:13 am
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He has proven, not only to

He has proven, not only to his wife, children, religious leaders and friends, but to everyone, he can not be trusted. He needs to do the right thing and step down. And if Jenny has any self valus or self respect left, she needs to send him on his way. Otherwise, what will his children learn from this? I do not believe that their staying together will teach his children anythis positive. I hope and pray his children will escape the scars of all of this their father has inflicted.

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Brenda_G 06/30/09 - 08:14 am
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ugadawgbite, you must be a

ugadawgbite, you must be a fly on the wall to make such a statement. Either that, or you're talking out of another orafice.

Son of God
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Son of God 06/30/09 - 08:36 am
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God hates divorce. Thank you

God hates divorce. Thank you Mrs. Sanford for forgiving Mr. Sanford and may God completely restore your marriage if it is in his will. He who is without sin, cast the first stone. Though a righteous man fall seven times, he will not be utterly cast down. God has forgiven, why can't you? When was the last time you needed forgiveness? We ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Mr. Sanford, you are forgiven, go and sin no more. Jesus is soon to come. he is writing in the sand as we speak.

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Georgiais1 06/30/09 - 08:38 am
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Well if Clinton could do it

Well if Clinton could do it as a President, why not a Gov? At least he didn't do at the mansion. Cut him some slack Jenny...

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aaa 06/30/09 - 08:53 am
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I think God is allowing us

I think God is allowing us all to use this event to re-examine our own souls and to test our own spirituality. I hope the Gov and his wife are able to work through this and come out stronger in the end . . . sorry, libs, I know you are all hoping this will end in disaster.

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Jonas 06/30/09 - 09:07 am
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Are you kidding me???

Are you kidding me???

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writer 06/30/09 - 09:08 am
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So, they went to the boot

So, they went to the boot camp during the month of May and the Sanfords passed with "flying colors". Then in June he is spending an extended amount of time in Argentina with his lover. Have we seen anywhere that he was down there to break up with her? Now he is saying he is trying to put his marriage back together. Why? Because he got caught? If a month of intensive Bible marriage boot camp didn't work, why should anyone believe what he is saying now? He and his wife need to split, he needs to stop talking publically about his sins of the flesh and he needs to disappear politically after his term is up.

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TrukinRanger 06/30/09 - 09:12 am
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Sanford makes me sick... he
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Sanford makes me sick... he is a scum bag, a liar and a cheater. Mr. Culbertson is no better either- he misled everyone and should have called Sanford down instead of acting like everything was good. He knew he was a worm and acted like it did not happen- just shows how hypocritical this religious mumbo-jumbo really is.....

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themaninthemirror 06/30/09 - 09:38 am
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It's not the fact that he had

It's not the fact that he had an affair, it's the fact that he walked out on his job as governor of S. C. and no one knew his whereabouts or could get in touch him for a week. If you or I walked away from our job,and did not call in or show up for a week, we would not have a job when we did decide to show up again. Mark Sanford certainly does not have his priorities or scruples in the right place.

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noway 06/30/09 - 09:51 am
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Gotta love the Christian

Gotta love the Christian hypocrites..

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MtnMan 06/30/09 - 09:53 am
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PATRICIA...come on now....you

PATRICIA...come on now....you know it is all Republicans "falling from Grace" of late....how can you defend them in Office??? The Governor STOLE taxpayers money to party with his girlfriend! You are such a hypocrite....the Republican Party is now filled with white trash!!

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disssman 06/30/09 - 10:03 am
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How do we know God has

How do we know God has forgiven him, has someone spoken with God recently? I believe he broke Gods law and breaking the law requires punishment. That law by the way is the ten commandments, not nine.

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ladyjanegrey 06/30/09 - 10:04 am
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Go South Mark...be with the

Go South Mark...be with the one you love...tell the political idiots to KYA!!

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jackfruitpaper833 06/30/09 - 10:47 am
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Yep he's in love with the

Yep he's in love with the other woman, that hurts (Jenny) when she knows that. I wonder when was the last time he told Jenny he loved her? I knew she didn't know where he was and to find out he was in Argentina that's a blow to the heart that usually pierces people to the core of their heart and sometimes makes them go crazy, especially AFTER he/she had promised to not contact this person again. And you (Jenny) thinking he's honoring his word but no he's over there. Can you say Oh God my heart.

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R2 06/30/09 - 10:56 am
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I like that name "Cubby."

I like that name "Cubby." Didn't he used to be on Leave it to Beaver?

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shamrock 06/30/09 - 11:49 am
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Some of the postings on this

Some of the postings on this item are some of the most absurd I have ever seen. The fact that his wife even considered taking him back after she found out in January speaks volumes about her character. She is hurt deeply and rightfully so. There isn't a REAL man on this planet that doesn't understand that. The blame is all his and even the Governor knows that much (and we're not too sure about his intelligence at this point)!!

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Tujeez1 06/30/09 - 12:22 pm
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Maybe you're all reading this

Maybe you're all reading this wrong. I have seen several articles on this topic. I have seen many references to Jenny as his "closest" political advisor. Maybe he fell out of love with her. Maybe the relationship became "too professional". Maybe she was pushing him too hard to fight the stimulus money(to propel him into the national spotlight)(to better his chances in a presidential election bid) Maybe the presidency was HER ambition for him and he didn't want it. Maybe that's what soured their relationship. Who knows, many reporters have said SHE is very driven and politically active, even running his campaigns. Maybe she pushed him too hard to fulfill her ambitions. There is alot more to this story than just a guy having a fling. He has been friends with the "other woman" for years....Maybe Jenny pushed him away with her ambition....sometimes you gotta lighten up. It's really sad for the children, but if Jenny pushed too hard, they already know the deal better than anyone else. She probably pushes them too. Can you imagine being a politician, with a "beauty pageant mom" for a wife?

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ladyjanegrey 06/30/09 - 01:28 pm
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Exactly Tujeez.....now he

Exactly Tujeez.....now he should just go for the life and love he yearns for.....he really is a very smart man with really simple needs...the wife should run for Gov...then Pres....Mark should enter a peaceful life with his ladylove and an acre or two to nurture......God Bless.

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GACopperhead 06/30/09 - 01:30 pm
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Tujeez, you're an idiot.No

Tujeez, you're an idiot.No matter what, there is NEVER any excuse to philander. PERIOD. It's just been released, that his "confession" to the public was "inaccurate", and he met here more than he said he had. This is, is at least, moral turpitude. All politicians who can't keep it in their pants while in office should be forced out. They are liars and sheats, and have no place in the government of the People.

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Niko Mahs 06/30/09 - 01:34 pm
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Attention!!!!!!!!!!! Now

Attention!!!!!!!!!!! Now there's a Boot Camp that really works! Cubby & the Gang all getting together and telling each other how righteous and full of (you know what) that they all are experiencing. Seems like a bit of a constipated Bible group.

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jackfruitpaper833 06/30/09 - 01:49 pm
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She pushed him away FALLS OUT

She pushed him away FALLS OUT LAUGHING AT Tujeez did he say that LOL... what she should do is KNOCK him side the head, embarassing her like that...

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happydazerhereagain 06/30/09 - 02:14 pm
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shamrock, don't give me the

shamrock, don't give me the blame is all HIS bull crap, it takes two to tango in every marriage

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