Wife told Sanford to stop affair

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SULLIVANS ISLAND, S.C. --- South Carolina first lady Jenny Sanford sat in her oceanfront living room Friday, recalling how her husband repeatedly asked permission to visit his lover in the months after she discovered his affair.

"I said absolutely not. It's one thing to forgive adultery; it's another thing to condone it," Mrs. Sanford told The Associated Press during a 20-minute interview at the coastal home where she sought refuge with their four sons. They were her first extended comments on the affair.

She said that when her husband, Gov. Mark Sanford, inexplicably disappeared last week, she hoped he was hiking on the Appalachian Trail, as his staff told those who inquired about his absence. That he had dared to go to Argentina to see the other woman left her stunned.

"He was told in no uncertain terms not to see her," she said in a strong, steady voice. "I was hoping he was on the Appalachian Trail. But I was not worried about his safety. I was hoping he was doing some real soul searching somewhere and devastated to find out it was Argentina. It's tragic."

The Sanfords had separated about two weeks ago. She said her husband told the family that he wanted some time away to work on writing a book and clear his head. The first lady said, "I had every hope he was not going to see her."

"You would think that a father who didn't have contact with his children, if he wanted those children, he would toe the line a little bit," she said.

Mrs. Sanford, a Georgetown-educated, former Wall Street vice president, said she discovered her husband's affair early this year after coming across a copy of a letter to the mistress in one of his files in the official governor's mansion. He had asked her to find some financial information, she said, not an unusual request considering her heavy involvement in his career.

The first lady said she confronted her husband immediately, and he agreed to end the affair. She said she wasn't sure Friday whether he had done so.

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disssman 06/27/09 - 04:35 pm
Riverman if you want to bring

Riverman if you want to bring Bill back into it. Wasn't Mark the guy in Congress condemning Bill for his low morals? Didn't Mark vote to impeach Bill? Wow it's true that the CONServatives set themselves above all others, especially wjen it comes to religious moral standards. Next thing you know they will be talking about how they set workers above everything in business.

convertedsoutherner 06/27/09 - 06:39 pm
Nothing wrong with having

Nothing wrong with having 'high moral value' and it works every time that it is followed. Just like abstinence works when it is observed. I hope the conservatives continue to push for 'high moral values because it works every time that it is observed And remember, there is nothing wrong with hghi moral standards.

fht610 06/27/09 - 06:50 pm
There IS nothing wrong with

There IS nothing wrong with high moral standards. The problem with conservative Christians is that they preach them for everyone else but can't quite seem to follow thru when it comes to their own behavior. Look at "Promise Keeper" John Ensign..Although I must say that Jimmy Swaggart's "I have sinned against you" schtik was a lot more entertaining than Sanford' recent TV outing....

cdjackson35 06/27/09 - 06:53 pm
My prayers are with First

My prayers are with First Lady Jenny Sanford and the children; I could care less about the Governor and his "political" affiliation. He is just like most politicians.....they are HYPOCRITES.

purmkinhed 06/27/09 - 10:22 pm
Can y'all say "Mid-Life

Can y'all say "Mid-Life Crisis"!!! You know, where they think the grass is greener on the other side only to find out it's not and now you not only have ruined your life, professional and personal, but you now have ruined the lives of your devoted loving wife and your children. So sad.

AmericanRose 06/27/09 - 11:34 pm
Gov Sanford is just as good

Gov Sanford is just as good as all the other goveners, only he got caught. Personal issues...yes! That should not be our
business. I think he is the same goveror as before we found out about this tabloid agenda. Let the man do his job. Leave the man's personal life out of this. His wife needs to turn away from the media.

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