Teens getting wrong message, judge says

Parents can be better prepared to protect their children if they understand what their children are being exposed to, said Superior Court Judge Danny Craig.

"If you're of the opinion that your children are not constantly bombarded by some of the most blatant suggestions, then you're deaf, dumb and blind, because the media that you grew up with in the '50s or '60s or '70s is not at all what the media is today," he said in a speech to the Episcopal Day School Parent Association on March 11.

"Do it if it feels good. Do it if you're enjoying your life. Do it regardless of respect to others, because you only have one life to live and you need to live it to the fullest," he said. "That's the message that your children are getting from the media."

In his presentation, Choices for a Lifetime: What the Entertainment Industry Won't Tell You About the Life It Glamorizes, Judge Craig discussed teen and parent responsibilities with respect to alcohol, marijuana and other drugs, criminal history, bullying and Internet crimes, as well as the consequences of each.

What might seem "not that bad" can have tough consequences, he told the parents.

For example, he often tells students that there is no such thing as a "cheap joint."

"I can't stop you; your parents can't stop you; and none of us are going to fool ourselves to suggest that we can. But don't think that it's just a $5 joint of marijuana," he said.

The cost, he told the students, could end up being a lot more.

Parents have to stop letting the media be their baby sitters, Judge Craig said. "You have to turn the television off to save your child."

He said he hoped that parents understood from his presentation how important their jobs are.

"Parenting can never be put on automatic pilot. There are no days off," he said. "Every missed opportunity to mentor a child subjects a child to dramatic and sometimes traumatic consequences."

Reach Nikasha Dicks at (706) 823-3336 or nikasha.dicks@augustachronicle.com.

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marie21
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marie21 03/20/08 - 08:55 am
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What a great man, full of

What a great man, full of wisdom. Danny Craig for President!

gijoe7898
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gijoe7898 03/20/08 - 09:55 am
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He did a great job as

He did a great job as prosecutor. Was happy to see him get the judge position. While talented enough to move on to bigger and better things, I hope he remains in the Augusta community.

Aroundtown
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Aroundtown 03/20/08 - 10:34 am
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My children think that I am

My children think that I am too strict, but I remember a story that I heard once of a mother whose child wanted to see an "R" rated movie. She said no, and the kid said that the movie was ok, all their friends had seen it and it just had a little cursing, and very little nudity or sex. So later on she made brownies and offered them to her child , who was about to bite into one...she said, I only added a little bit of the dog's poop to them. The kid was understandibly grossed out, but she gently explained that the brownies were still OK, they only had a little bit.....

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mgroothand 03/20/08 - 11:47 am
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The visual media is always to

The visual media is always to blame for images inappropriate for children in certain age groups. Theaters have people that screen for ID's but at home TV is always the culprit. Unless you have a very old TV set, most sets are equipped with parental controls that can esaily be activated by the touch of a few buttons. The so called "V" chip is there for a purpose. The general media promotes these controls but the vast majority of parents ignore them. It is wrong to blame the visual media for all these societal ills unless they include the many sick video games that must be purchased at considerable cost - most often by "adults".

Chuchi
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Chuchi 03/20/08 - 12:35 pm
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The solution is very easy:

The solution is very easy: turn off the TV. Get rid of it if you have to. Don't let them online without you breathing down their necks the entire time. Set up password protection so they can't use the computer if you are in the next room. They'll get over it. If they ask you why you're so strict, simply tell them the truth: "Because I'm mean." They'll live, quite literally.

Craig Spinks
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Craig Spinks 03/20/08 - 12:49 pm
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The child-rearing duties of

The child-rearing duties of husbands and wives become more difficult but more important to their offsprings' optimal development in an era when a majority of their children's cohort is not reared by both their male and female progenitors.

lovingthesouth72
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lovingthesouth72 03/20/08 - 02:06 pm
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Tough love, emphasis on LOVE

Tough love, emphasis on LOVE - Parents who cannot apply this are just lazy and do not live up to their reposnsabilities. Build relationships with your kids so they understand that what you are requiring them is a higher standard of living. And live to that standard yourselves too. When my son asks me if he can watch PG13 movies (which used to be rated R in my time), I tell him that just because he is of age that does not mean it is a good idea to watch them. Do I watch every R rated movie out there because I am grownup and I can? No. Most of them are a bunch of trash and there are plenty better things to do in life.

carlyle
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carlyle 03/20/08 - 02:29 pm
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" Parents can be better

" Parents can be better prepared to protect their children if they understand what their children are being exposed to." Great statement by Mr. Craig. Our children of Harrisburg are being exposed to Mercy Ministries, a day shelter for the homeless. Please hlp us remove this blight from our neighborhood. They have no clear cut mission other than a place to hang out during the day. Parents need to know that this is in the neighborhood. It is located at the corner of Fenwick and Crawford Ave. These men are residing at night in a quardruplex behind the mission. They do not leave the neighborhood. They became a part of this neighborhood without anyone knowing it. Now they are a huge problem. If you would like to get involved, go to www.hongkongaugustaga.org.

Harrisburg resident

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pattibj 03/21/08 - 03:38 am
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How sad that most of society

How sad that most of society does not realize or want to believe that those men, women and children who are homeless are your brothers, sisters, next door neighbors kids, aunts, uncles, nephews grandfathers and grandmothers etc... Mercy Ministries is probably overwhelmed with the response they get from the peolpe in need. Judge Craig does imply the media plays a big part in planting seeds of rebellion, perverted sex and drug use. Just turn the Tv off. Use parental controlls. Parents, take controll of your children. If you don't, they may end up in the Harrisburg community, hanging out during the day, no place to go. These people are someones "children." Some are x drug addicts, some are mentally challenged" children", some are detoxed alcoholics, others are "children" who lived pay check to pay check and it finally ran out. I say expose your children to this blight and teach them to be aware of what the media says is fun and exciting. If you want Mercy Ministries to relocate help them. You MAY NEED THEM SOMEDAY.

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