THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: My boyfriend is black, and my parents don't like it. What should I do?
Here's what you had to say to this girl:
Xtreme reporter Kamille Bostick says: You can't change your parents' beliefs about race and love, just like they can't change who it is that you are dating. It's an exercise in futility to try to get them to believe differently if they are convinced about interracial relationships and strong in their opinions against them.
What you can do is state your case and let time and familiarity work on your parents. Do things that will allow your parents to get to know your boyfriend, the person, instead of your boyfriend, the black guy. Show them how well he treats you and tell them that you have come to see beyond color and you only wish they would, too.
While it's admirable that you want to please your parents, it is not always possible. You are growing up and becoming not only an adult but an individual. That means you have the opportunity to make your own choices, form your own beliefs and set the standards you want to live by. Those things might not line up with your parents, but it's your life and your heart. Use them well.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM: "I've been dating this guy for about a year and I'm engaged to him, but we haven't told our parents. He's planning on telling them next year. I know his parents will be fine with it, but my mother won't be happy at all. I love him, but I'm afraid of what my mother will do."
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