THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: I just found out that my boyfriend of a year is gay. He's been talking to my other friend who's gay. I found out that they had sex. What can I do? - 15-year-old Augusta girl.
Here's what you had to say:
Xtreme reporter Jennifer Hilliard says: It's almost always devastating when a long-term relationship ends, much less with circumstances like these.
But make no mistake about it, your relationship is over. Maybe not because he had this experience, but because he was unfaithful to you.
Are you sure that he's gay, or are you relying on someone else's word? If you didn't see it yourself, the only way to know if it really happened is to ask your boyfriend. Do that, and you'll know if he's lying.
Any expert will tell you that one act of passion doesn't determine someone's sexuality. Just because he may have had sex with this other guy once doesn't mean that he's gay. All it means is that he was curious and acted on it, probably without thinking about your feelings.
If your relationship with him was a physical one, get yourself to a doctor or clinic to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. If your boyfriend cheated on you with another guy, there is no telling who else he cheated with.
You may also want to arrange a sit-down with your friend. If he is your friend, why did he cheat with your boyfriend? You need to re-examine that relationship as well.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM
I just came from a different school, and this girl wants to fight me because she thinks her boyfriend likes me. All of my friends say I should just fight her and get suspended to get it over with. What should I do?
Do you have any advice for this 15-year-old Augusta girl? Call the Advice Line at 442-4444 and press 8614. You'll have one minute to answer.
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