THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: My boyfriend is a 20-year-old high school dropout and makes a living as a car mechanic. Last week he asked me to marry him, but I don't want to tie myself down yet. I love him, but I want to go to college and think I would be more comfortable marrying someone who would be more able to pay the bills. I don't want to lose him, and this seems to complicate things more than being girlfriend and boyfriend. I love him and don't want to lose him. - 18-year-old Augusta girl.
Here's what you had to say:
Xtreme reporter Jennifer Hilliard says: You say you love this guy but all I really hear you saying is that you're concerned with material things, like how much money he makes. If you really love him that wouldn't be an issue.
It's unfortunate that he hasn't finished school, but you knew that before you started dating. You also knew that he is a car mechanic before you started the relationship. And by the way, some car mechanics make really good money. More than some people with a college education.
That said, you're only 18. You shouldn't be considering marriage at such an early age, especially since you're about to leave for college.
Someone once told me that taking a boyfriend to college is like taking sand to a beach, meaning that there are so many interesting guys out there. Maybe what both of you need is some time apart - for you to consider the commitment that marriage means, and for him to consider going back to school.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM
I just found out that my boyfriend is gay. He's been talking to my other friend who's gay. I found out that they had sex. What can I do?
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