THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: I met this boy and he's trying to force me to have sex with him. But it's not right, and I don't feel right about it. What should I do? - 13-year-old North Augusta girl.
Here's what you had to say:
Xtreme reporter Jennifer Hilliard says: It sounds like you're really considering this.
I don't think anyone has to remind you that you are only 13 years old, certainly too young to even be thinking about having sex. You said you don't feel right about it. That should be your first clue.
That said, the key word here is force.
Make no mistake about it, any time a person forces someone else to have sex with him or her, it's rape.
The most important thing is that you don't feel right about it, and you should never do something that you don't want to do.
The first thing you should do is get away from this boy. There is no way that you can be 100 percent safe around him. He might be nice about it now, but chances are that it's only a matter of time before your rejections set him off. Don't take that chance.
Next, tell someone - anyone. Tell your parents. But if you don't feel comfortable telling them about it, talk to friends. You could also seek advice from a school counselor.
The most important thing to remember is that your safety should be the main concern. Don't be afraid of getting this guy in trouble by telling someone about what he's doing.
Think about it this way: If you tell someone about it and he does get in trouble, he'll have plenty of time to think about and reconsider his actions. If he doesn't, at least you could save his next victim.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM
My friend did something wrong, got caught and then lied and and almost got me in trouble. What can I tell her to stop this before it gets out of control?
Do you have any advice for this 13-year-old Aiken girl? Call the Advice Line at 442-4444 and press 8614. You'll have one minute to answer.
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