THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: There's this guy who has a girlfriend, and they've been dating 2 1/2 years and they've been having some tough problems in their relationship. I've been sleeping with him, and I just found out I'm pregnant with his baby. So what do I need to do about this whole mess? - 19-year-old Augusta girl
Here's what you had to say:
Xtreme reporter Jennifer Hilliard says: What's most important here is the health of you and your baby. If you haven't been to a doctor already, go now. It might also be a good idea to have yourself checked for STDs. Chances are, you're not the only person this guy cheated with.
I would suggest setting up a support system. Tell your parents. While they may not be happy about it, they will ultimately help you decide what is best for you and your baby. You may also want to get the opinion of an unbiased party. That means don't ask your friends and family what to do. Try finding a counselor, doctor or women's center.
You also need to tell the father. Even if he is back together with his girlfriend, he has a right to know about your situation. He also has a responsibility here. He may have been on medication that could harm the baby, and he needs to be there for doctor's appointments.
As for telling the girlfriend, if you wait much longer you won't have to. You and the father should do it together. That way you can be sure she gets both sides of the story and you don't come away looking like the bad guy.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM I'm 18 years old and I'm in love with a guy who's about to turn 23. He lives in Tennessee, and I'm stuck in South Carolina. It really kills me that we're so far apart. What should I do?
Do you have any advice for this 18-year-old Edgefield girl? Call the Advice Line at 442-4444 and press 8614. You'll have one minute to answer.
Got a problem? Call 442-4444 and press 8613. You'll have one minute to give us your situation. Please speak clearly and state your age and the town you live in.
You also can e-mail your problems to jennifer.hilliard@ augustachronicle.com. Put "Advice Line" in the subject line. All e-mail addresses will be kept confidential. Questions may be condensed for space.