Originally created 08/06/02

Girl's friends are too wild for her

THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM I have these friends who are totally too wild for me. They come to a lot of parties, and we hang out and all, and every time they meet a cousin of mine or something like that, they're always kissing all over him. It's so embarrassing. I was wondering, should I not be friends with them, or should I try to get used to it? - 14-year-old Augusta girl

Here's what you had to say:

  • I think you should find some new friends. They only want to be your friend because of your cousin. Tell your friends it's about you.
  • I don't think you need those kinds of friends.
  • First, you should confront them and ask them not to talk to him. Watch them and see if they're doing it. If they don't straighten up, then don't be friends with them because it's not worth risking it if they're just embarrassing you.
  • You should stay out of it and let them learn the hard way.
  • They probably have a crush on your cousin. You don't have to lose your friends over something like that. Just ask them if they have a crush on him. If they do, hook them up or something.
  • You shouldn't be friends with them if they're all over your cousin. If you don't like it, say something.
  • Still be friends with them, because friends stick by each other. Talk to them and tell them how you feel and tell them to tone it down a little bit.
  • I think you should leave it alone.
  • Xtreme reporter Jennifer Hilliard says: You said it yourself: They're too wild for you. If you're already questioning why you're friends with them, that should be your first clue.

    If they're constantly hooking up with guys you introduce them to, chances are they see you more as a dating service than a true friend.

    If you're interested in saving the relationship, talk to them about their inappropriate behavior. Tell them why their actions embarrass you.

    If they want to keep you as a friend, they'll stop. If they don't, chances are they're just using you, and the friendship is not worth trying to salvage.

    You should also talk to your cousin. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable to see him hooking up with your friends. Chances are he'll see your side of it and look for other ways to find girls he's interested in.

    If all else fails, stop taking your friends to family functions.


    My best friend is a guy, and he wants me to choose between him and my boyfriend. I really don't care about my boyfriend, and I really care about this guy. I never get to talk to him; sometimes we go out together, but it's not a lot. Should I choose him over my boyfriend? I need some help.

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