THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM
My problem is that I can't do things that other teen-agers these days do. No matter how many times I've told my mom that I'm growing up and she needs to let me out more, it never gets through. What should I do? - 15-year-old North Augusta girl
Here's what you had to say:
Xtreme reporter Alisa DeMao says: Talking isn't going to convince her. This is one of those cases where actions speak louder than words. Show your mom that you're mature and can be trusted.
Start by acting responsibly around the house, then point to your maturity there as backup for being allowed more freedom. Don't expect to suddenly be granted a lot of freedom. Start small. As your mom sees that she can trust you and that you know how to be safe and responsible, you should slowly be allowed to do more things. Don't push too fast and don't act impatient and angry if your mom doesn't allow things as soon as you want - that will just convince her you're too immature.
Also make sure she knows who you're going to be spending time with and what you'll be doing. She's probably worried that something might happen to you. Have her meet your friends and their parents, so she knows who you're going to be around. Set up a schedule to check in with her - it's usually easy to slip away for a minute and give her a phone call to let her know you're OK.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM:
I like an older person, and my mom doesn't like him. I want to go out with him, but I don't know if I should, because my mom doesn't want me to. I really love this guy. What should I do?
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