THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him, but I don't know what to do. I'm Christian, and I'm supposed to be waiting until I get married. What should I do? - 15-year-old North Augusta girl
Here's what you had to say:
Xtreme reporter Alisa DeMao says: First of all, before taking your religious beliefs into account, you absolutely should not be having sex just because it's what your boyfriend wants. If you're not ready to have sex, you shouldn't do it - the fact that you're uncertain enough to ask this question is an indication that you're not ready. If he cares about you, he'll respect what you want, not just care about what he wants.
Secondly, don't compromise your religious beliefs for another person. A lot of people eventually do question some of their beliefs, but it should be because you're interested in examining your own faith. You should not be compromising your beliefs to make someone else happy.
Another issue to consider is that you are under the age of consent, so if you have sex, it's illegal. He could be charged with statutory rape.
You need to sit down and talk about your concerns, make him aware of your religious beliefs and let him know that you want those beliefs to guide your actions. He either has to respect what you want and be willing to work at the relationship within your guidelines, or the two of you have to realize you want different things and it might be better to end the relationship.
NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM
Ever since I had sex with my boyfriend, he's been asking for more. I thought it was a mistake, and I don't want to have it again. But I don't want to hurt his feelings and tell him I don't want to.
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