Originally created 02/10/02

What women want



Kim Holmes says that after 15 years of marriage, her husband, Larry, has forgotten how to be romantic.

"He doesn't have a romantic bone in his body," Mrs. Holmes says. "But he did when we were dating, of course."

The Augusta Chronicle asked readers to tell us what they would like for Valentine's Day in place of the traditional gifts of flowers and candy.

Mrs. Holmes says all she wants is romance. (Larry, are you paying attention?)

I want an uninterrupted date with my husband, she said. "No kids, no phone calls. And I want him to surprise me with something spontaneous."

Here's a wish list of the other Valentine's Day requests we received. (Revealing last names and ages was optional for participants.)

RAVEN, 16

I would something that came from his heart; like a poem, a song or anything that he had to think of to show me how much he cares.

KATHY, 39

I would love to have my car detailed.

SANDY, 47

A day at the spa: massage, manicure, pedicure, hairstyle and highlights ... the works! (Or any one of the above.)

LASHAWN TYNER, 15

I would like my boyfriend to get on the intercom at school and announce to everyone that he loves me.

ELAINE FIELDS, 43

A professional full-body massage.

HAZEL NORMAN, APPLING

Mrs. Norman said that for the cost of a dozen roses, her husband could buy three rosebushes and she could have dozens of roses for dozens of years. She also likes turtles better than regular chocolates.

"And darlin', if you read this letter ... get two boxes because you always eat half the candy," she said.

DORIS CHARNOCK

Mrs. Charnock wants a day of simple pleasures: breakfast in bed with a flower and newspaper on the tray, a picnic lunch at the lake (using our best linen, china and silver) and an evening listening to semiclassical music, while looking through old photos of our nearly 20 years together.

TERRI DUNCAN

Mrs. Duncan wants a love note, reminiscent of the ones she and her husband exchanged during junior high and high school, when their love was just blooming.

"Now after nearly 16 years of marriage to that same incredible man, I long for one of those love notes on 8 1/2 -by-11, lined paper ... What a treasure my love's written thoughts would be!"

CLAIR GOEN

Two roses, one white and one red, a nice dinner and for him to dance with me like it was the first time.

HELEN, 47

A big hug followed by the words "I love you."

CHEYANNE YODICE

I just want my fiance to love me unconditionally and forever. ... And a dozen white roses won't hurt, either.

PHYLLIS, 47

To be able to sit and talk and laugh at Applebee's is my favorite thing to do. Maybe go to a movie afterward.

DARRELL, 41 (OUR LONE MALE RESPONDENT)

I would like to go to a romantic movie and out to dinner.

SIMPLE PLEASURES

Romance doesn't have to be complicated. Here are some simple suggestions from the book 2002 Things To Do on a Date by Cyndi Haynes and Dale Edwards.

Relax in front of a fire sipping brandy

Build a campfire and roast s'mores

Have a moonlight picnic

Rent a pontoon boat (a picnic there would be fun, too)

Make and share a banana split

Rent a convertible and go for a ride with the top down

Go in-line skating

Cook something exotic together

Go to a drive-in movie (there's one in Monetta, S.C.)

Hold or go to a wine tasting

Go ice skating

Rent a canoe

Cook dinner with fondue

Rent a tandem bicycle

Take a dance class