Originally created 01/09/01

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THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: "I've been dating this boy for about three weeks, and I really like him a lot. He just broke up with me for another girl. She goes to my school, and every time I see her she laughs and snickers at me. I'm wondering if I should get revenge and try and do something with him." - 16-year-old Augusta girl

Here's what you had to say:

I've been in the same situation, and I would not try to take revenge. Just tell him that you need someone to get (her) off your back.

He's not worth that. I have the same problem right now, and I would just thumb my nose and ignore her.

While revenge seems like the thing to do now, later on you're going to hate yourself for messing around with a guy who you know doesn't want you. Just leave him and his new female alone, and later on somebody will come along who you like just as much, if not more.

If I was you, I'd get my revenge and take what's mine. That's what I'd do.

Well, I've had the same problem, and I tried to take revenge. But then I found out it didn't work. So don't try.

Girl, you must be out of your mind. Why would you be stooping to her level? You need to find somebody new and get on with your life.

I think you should just move on because trying to get revenge would be stooping to her level. I know it might be hard, but ignore her. She'll end up feeling really stupid later on because you could handle the situation and she was immature about it.

He sounds like a major jerk. You should leave him alone, though. If he's stupid enough to go out with someone as mean as her, he doesn't deserve you or your time.

If you really like this dude, talk to him, but taking revenge won't get anything started but a fight. So if you really like him, sit down and talk to him, and tell her how you feel about him. But don't get revenge. That's not good.

NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM:

"I had a baby, and I put him up for adoption because I knew in my heart that I would mess up my life, my boyfriend's life and most of all, my little boy's life. I know people think I did something horrible by putting him up for adoption. I am afraid of what people will say. I have already been told that I am a bad mother and person for giving up my baby. But I met the adopting parents, so it's not like I just left my baby on the steps of some house. I love my little boy. I am still with my boyfriend, so I get so much emotional support from him. But I don't think he is going to go to school with me and cheer me up every time someone says something hurtful. What should I say when a person says something hurtful to me?"

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