Originally created 10/03/00

Xtreme advice: Others' catty comments should just be ignored



THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM: "It seems like every time I wear something to school, other girls have something to say about it. Even the smallest thing, like the spot on my shirt. Should I confront them or ignore it?" - 14-year-old North Augusta girl

Here's what you had to say:

- Don't even worry about these girls. If they're talking about you, just be like, whatever. They're probably just jealous of you anyway. If it keeps on going on, then you should confront them and ask them what they're problem is anyway. But if they don't like you, just be like "Fine, you can't be my friend." Just don't even worry about it.

- I think if they have that much to say about your clothes that you wear, then they should go out and buy you some. Just tell them straight off, "These are my clothes. I wear them. If you have a problem with it, then go buy me some."

- You should confront them.

- I think you should confront them because they have no business looking at your clothes, and if they have something to say then all you have to say is, "If you don't like my clothes, go buy me some more."

- I think you should ignore them.

- You do not go to school to make a fashion statement. You go to school to learn, and the only reason the girls act the way they act is because of jealousy.

- I think you should confront them. If they say something about you next time, try to find something big to pick on about them and maybe they'll quit picking on you.

- You should just ignore them as long as you're comfortable with yourself. And don't worry about what people say because as long as you know who you are and you're comfortable, that's all that matters.

- You should definitely ignore the girls making fun of you. Apparently they are jealous. If you confront them, then you will stoop to their level. So, be a bigger person by ignoring them and know that you're a better person by ignoring them.

- You shouldn't worry about it. I mean if the clothes are clean, you shouldn't worry about it. If they are dirty, well then. So, I wouldn't really pay attention to them because it's your clothes and it's whatever you want to wear and you don't have to dress up for anybody.

Next week's problem:
"No one likes my friend, and I'm the only one in the school who likes her. But she's really starting to get on my nerves with all the lying and stuff. I don't know if I should be her friend anymore."

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