Originally created 09/19/00

Communication can help to clear the air



THIS WEEK'S PROBLEM

"I have liked this guy for almost two years now, and I told one of my best friends that I really liked him. She's really good friends with him, and I asked her about it and she said that they were only friends. But now she's dating him, and I have no idea what I should do." - 17-year-old Aiken girl

Here's what you had to say:

I think that she should be mad at her friend because she told her she liked him and her friend went with him anyway.

I think that she should tell her friend how she feels or go and tell the guy she likes him.

I think that you should write this guy a letter and see what happens from there. If he answers, then find out if he likes you or not.

Leave him alone. He ain't no good for you. Everybody deserves better.

Girl, first of all, that girl you call your best friend, evidently she wasn't your friend at all. I would go up to her and tell her how I felt about her, and then I would go up to the boy and tell him how I felt about him.

If she was your true best friend, she wouldn't be dating him. She would be trying to get you and him together. I think she's not a true friend, and you should let her know. If she doesn't break up with him then y'all shouldn't be true friends anymore.

I think you should move on and find somebody else to like. It's obvious that those two like each other more than friends, so you should move on and find somebody that will like you back.

You should tell the guy that you really like how you feel and explain to him that you asked the good friend of his. Just tell him how you really feel.

All you have to do is just ask her. Go up to her and ask her why all of a sudden she's become such close friends with him.

Obviously, she's not a real friend. You need to find you a new friend and tell the boy how you really feel. Otherwise, he won't ever know. And you need to tell him what's going on between you and your friend because maybe he'll break up with her and go with you. You never know until you try.

You should tell the boy how you feel and even though he's going out with her I think he should know how she did you when you were the first one who was at least girl enough to say that you liked him.

That is no true friend if she dates him. But you should have been brave enough to ask him yourself to go out with him.

NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM:

I met this boy at the mall five months ago. We started talking, and now he wants to break up with me because I told him that I love him. He doesn't return my phone calls, and he always has an excuse as to why he doesn't want to see me. What should I do?

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