Dear Carson: I have a friend who owns a winery and on every possible occasion gives me a bottle of white chardonnay. Since I am allergic to white wine and much prefer red wine, I never drink it. Please suggest a tactful way that I can deal with this unwanted but much appreciated gift. -- Looking At A Gift Horse
Dear Gift Horse: Gentle honesty is the best policy. Tell him how much you appreciate his gifts but that the white wine is wasted on you. Suggest that you would welcome a bottle of red wine. Your facial expression and voice tone have much to do with softening anything you have to say.
Dear Carson: During past early summer columns you have addressed the issue of rules of etiquette when swimming in someone else's pool. Being a pool owner I have really appreciated seeing these suggestions in print. Last year I even posted them in a frame in my pool area. Please list them again. Thanks! -- Pool Owner
Dear Pool: Thanks for asking. Here they are:
-- Bring your own towels and pool toys.
-- Have your own drinks and snacks.
--Do not ask to use the pool unless you are invited.
-- Take a trash bag and collect your rubbish.
-- Make sure you have collected all your belongings before leaving.
--Put any pool furniture back in the correct position.
--Be sure your body and feet are clean before you jump into the pool.
-- Do not ask to come into the house for water or the telephone.
--If you have a standing invitation do not interrupt your hosts by ringing the doorbell to tell them that you have arrived or leaving. It only calls them from shower, nap or chores.
-- Do not jump onto their rubber rafts or pool toys.
-- Do not run around the pool.
-- For standing invitations, write a thank-you note or give the owners a really lovely gift.
-- And never, never go to the bathroom in someone's swimming pool.
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