Originally created 08/12/97

Xtreme advice: Try guy who's not your type



HERE'S THE PROBLEM:

"I'm looking for a relationship, and I think I found a guy. But he's not the type of guy I would normally fall for. What should I do? Should I follow my emotions?"

You answered:

  • "Give him a chance and see if he's what you like on the inside. If you don't like him, go find somebody else."
  • "Go along with it."
  • "Try him out to see how he is. You say you think you've found a guy. I think you have found him. Follow your emotions."
  • "Be really good friends with him for a while. See if you really like him. ... Make sure you're really sure about it."
  • "If you like the guy a lot and you think he's sweet and he doesn't disrespect you, stay with him."
  • "If he's not your type, why are you trying to get him involved in a relationship? Later on, he might find out you don't like him and dump you."
  • "Try him out. You say you're looking for a relationship. You found it. Just follow it. Follow it."
  • "Follow your emotions. Your emotions won't lead you into something wrong."
  • "Since he's not the type of guy you usually go out with, I think you shouldn't. I pity the fool."
  • "Follow your instincts and go, girl. You deserve a good man."
  • "You've been dating the wrong type of guy. Follow your emotions. If you don't you might hurt yourself and him."
  • "Don't follow your emotions. You get nothing out of falling in love with a guy you don't really like."
  • XTREME Reporter Wendy Grossman says: My last boyfriend wasn't my "type." He was a long-haired hippie who treated me nice. He didn't have awesome pecs. He didn't have a six-pack. He wasn't all that witty. But he was good to me, and that's what mattered. He was probably the nicest guy I've ever hung out with.

    People can like a million people for a million different reasons. The song that says "I could love a 100 different kinds of girls" keeps ringing through my head.

    You like different people for different reasons. You like Darren because he always makes you laugh. You like Rob's smile and the light in Roger's eyes. You like Kevin because he spends hours just holding your hand.

    Baskin Robbins has 31 flavors of ice cream, and it's OK for you to try them all before you find your favorite. That's why they have those little pink spoons.

    So, if you like him and he likes you, go out with him. You don't have to spend the rest of your life with him. But if you have fun with him, go for it.

    Got a problem?

    Call 442-4444 and punch 8613. You'll have one minute to give us your situation. Please state your age and the town you live in.

    NEXT WEEK'S PROBLEM:

    "I like a boy, and I don't think he likes me. What should I do?"

    Do you have any advice for this 12-year-old Augusta girl? Call the Teen Advice Answer Line at 442-4444 and press 8614. You'll have one minute to answer.



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