Dear Orange Juice: When you complained about the second glass of juice, there should have been no argument from the wait staff. They should simply have returned the offending glass of juice without a word. It is unpleasant as well as poor business to argue with customers. You are right in not wanting to return. I would simply have accepted their denial with no further ado, but not return.

Dear Carson: How do you address a formal invitation to a couple where the wife is a doctor and the husband is a "Mr." but they both have the same last name? - Address Angst

Dear Angst: In such a case the envelope should be addressed as follows: "Mr. Joseph Todd Smith and Dr. Mary Branch Smith". If the couple has different last names I recommend addressing them on two separate lines, i.e. "Dr. Susan Bernard Jones" on one line and on the other "Mr. Carl Joseph Fuqua".

Dear Carson: My husband and I are invited to a Buddhist wedding ceremony. We are totally unfamiliar with their customs and do not want to do anything that might unknowingly offend them. Could you give us some pointers? - Buddhist Behavior

Dear BB: I, too, am unfamiliar with Buddhist ceremonial tradition. However, I do have a book titled, How to Be a Perfect Stranger, The Essential Religious Etiquette Handbook, edited by Stuart M. Matlins & Arthur J. Magida, of Skylights Publishing Company of Woodstock, Vt. This book outlines ceremonial customs for various faiths. The following are some points with which you should be aware: