Letter: How not to be a victim

I worked for the city of Palo Alto, Calif., in the ’70s, and the mayor appointed me to help write the city’s Affirmative Action Plan.

 

I worked with the EEOC and NOW/Committee on the Status of Women and consider myself one of a generation of feminist pioneers. Our concerns were equal pay above all, equal job opportunities and becoming educated and informed and to advance in our careers.

True sexual harassment cases on the job were, and are, very rare. And true rape and date rape are serious crimes. But the current rise of “sexual harassment” cases shows this generation has no understanding of this offense.

If your noblest goal is to be an actress or model, you follow the Kardashians, put on tons of makeup, wear skimpy clothes, spend hours on long nails, and wear spike heels and live your life to look and act seductive; don’t be surprised or offended if it works!

Don’t set a trap like a spider and then spit your prey out (or sue them).

An important original feminist goal was to get to the point where you don’t depend on being attractive to men. It’s nice, but not necessary. A true feminist would have learned how to prevent compromising situations and be prepared to defend herself.

If necessary, sue, but not 30 years later and not seeing yourself as a helpless, martyrized victim.

Our advice then: Get as much education as you can afford. Be strong, tough, honest, and direct. And treat yourself to sensible shoes!

Pamela Muraca

Aiken, S.C.

 

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