Don't let crabs hinder you

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We are where we are because we made an appointment to be there. By that, I mean we are a product of the choices we have made. If we choose the sequence of completing school, getting jobs, getting married and having children when we can afford them, we have a greater chance of successful lives for ourselves and our families than if we engaged in any other sequence.

We are a product of our heredity, environment and experiences. We can’t control our heredity, but we can influence our environment and our experiences by the choices we make as to whom we associate with and how we decide to spend our time. If we associate with positive, uplifting, goal-oriented people, they can propel us toward a positive lifestyle.

However, if we associate with negative, low-ambition, take-what-you-can-get, unmotivated people, our lives most likely will be the same as theirs. If we associate with these negative people, don’t think it will be easy to escape them and their influence. Have you ever noticed in a basket of crabs how, when one crab tries to escape to freedom by crawling out of the basket, the others will reach up and pull it down? That’s the same thing these negative associates will do.

In this day of the Internet and great libraries, there is no excuse for anyone not taking advantage of all the self-improvement resources available. Rather than choosing to spend Saturday and Sunday afternoons hanging with friends or watching television, go to the library and read biographies, histories and self-improvement books. With the availability of Augusta’s main library and numerous branches, the majority of people are within a two-hour walk if one has no transportation.

So, no matter what one’s station is in life, a person can take charge of his or her future by choices made every day. No excuses. No blaming someone else.

Dee Stafford

Augusta

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gaflyboy
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gaflyboy 12/21/13 - 04:31 am
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Well said Dee!

Very good letter!

soldout
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soldout 12/21/13 - 05:07 am
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Excellent

Good letter; add to that effort the Spirit filled life so you make good decisions and have few regrets and you are on your way. No point in being the best educated and most well adjusted person to ever miss heaven. Get it all.

southern2
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southern2 12/21/13 - 08:46 am
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Great life lesson for today's

Great life lesson for today's society spelled out so simply that a caveman could understand.

***with apologies to cavemen****

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ymnbde 12/21/13 - 09:12 am
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wonderful guide on how to be an emotionally healthy adult

remember adults? are they extinct?
perhaps some social anthropologist will uncover the missing link
between childhood and adulthood
and we can recreate whatever forces turned children into adults
good letter, Mr Stafford
wonder why the Chronicle had to give it such an odd title, though?
perhaps that person should read it again, then again, because i don'think they quite got it...

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Riverman1 12/21/13 - 09:22 am
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I like the spirit of the

I like the spirit of the letter, but reality tells me some people simply don't have the ability to get out of the basket. They can't act as the more intellectually gifted can and are probably happiest staying down in that basket.

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soapy_725 12/21/13 - 09:35 am
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in all thy ways acknowledge HIM, and HE will direct your path...
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in all thy ways acknowledge HIM, and HE will direct your path...

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Humble Angela 12/21/13 - 09:50 am
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True...some CAN'T get out of
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True...some CAN'T get out of the basket, but the liberal solution to this problem is to force everyone else to stay in the basket with them.

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deestafford 12/21/13 - 09:53 am
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Thank y'all for the nice comments. Riverman1...

Thank y'all for the nice comments. Riverman1 you make a good point. Not everyone has the ability to crawl out of the basket and some of them are happy, happy, happy staying in the basket.

However, there are some in the basket that could crawl out if they want. Also, if there is a couple who know each other and do want something more out of life but alone cannot move on. Together they may have the ability to join together as a team and improve their lot in life. The key is to hate living in the basket so much that you are willing to pay whatever price necessary to get out. Of course, someone has to communicate that to them and that is where parents, relatives, teachers and pastors come in. Sadly, that lesson is not understood by too many parents.

The thing is if people have the ability to climb out and don't then they shouldn't crawl around and blame someone else for their situation.

As far as the title goes, it's better than mine as it was too long. I thank them for not changing a word in the body of the letter.

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Riverman1 12/21/13 - 10:22 am
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Sure, I get what HA and

Sure, I get what HA and DeeStafford are saying.

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seenitB4 12/21/13 - 10:39 am
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I'm glad I read the letter

I was thinking of all kind of crabs...hey, I wondered how they could write about THAT..:)

Great letter ....& so true.

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Little Lamb 12/21/13 - 04:57 pm
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Truth

Great letter, Dee.

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paulwheeler 12/21/13 - 08:08 pm
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Oh Dee, please enlighten,

Oh Dee, please enlighten, where have you witnessed the crab behavior that you reference? Crab traps that I am familiar with are underwater, perhaps you enjoy snorkeling?

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deestafford 12/21/13 - 08:17 pm
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Paul, If you take the crabs...

Paul, If you take the crabs after you catch them and put them in something similar to a round wooden peach basket each time one tries to escape others will pull him back. Every once in awhile one will escape.

When I was a kid growing up in Savannah, GA we would go out crabbing in an old runabout and put the crabs in a peach basket after we caught them either in a trap or with a chicken neck on a string. Doing this at night and barefooted and not knowing one escaped until he found your toe was very interesting.

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