For some who read the Sept. 13 letter to the editor concerning single moms (“Keep the family together”), one might take from it the conclusion that just being a single mom is the cause of so many problems associated with delinquent kids.
However, single parents are but a symptom of a greater societal problem.
I have raised a child alone for a decade and a half, and I will tell you that it is the hardest thing an adult will ever do if done right. And then it does not all go as planned. You stand outside the day care waiting for it to open because of needing to be at work early, having no support from the noncustodial parent. You often don’t have family support nearby. You come home from work and then start second-shift at home – making dinner, overseeing a bath, doing laundry, checking homework, then maybe an hour of “me” time before bed. Then you get up the next day and do it all over again.
Yes, good single parenthood is very, very hard, but not impossible.
As for the causes of childhood delinquency, it’s not due to locking up fathers for crimes, or not teaching sex education in schools, or whether you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth. It is because divorce and unwed pregnancy have become an accepted part of normal society. For most people today, doing the right thing is not always an easy thing, and in our society people have become attracted to the easy way, never really experiencing a true hardship.
Our society has accepted non-responsibility for personal bad behavior, and our government has aided in this bad behavior by giving handouts such as food stamps, housing and free phones. This government support of bad behavior has made them partly responsible for creating a large underclass of unproductive people in our society. But I don’t blame the recipients – it is easy for people who have no responsibility to perpetuate a condition that would result in single parenthood.
With no means of support, other than handouts from the government, it becomes a way of life for these poor people. After all, they have never been expected to be truly responsible for their actions, and this lifestyle becomes a vicious circle, handed down from generation to generation.
So who is to blame for this travesty? We are. Take a stroll down the more seedy parts of town, and observe what we as a society have accepted. It was created by the people whom we put into political power, and now college academics and know-it-alls are making excuses for this sad state of affairs rather than being truthful about the causes.
Why is this, you ask? Because telling the truth is not politically correct.