Society's slide is to blame

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For some who read the Sept. 13 letter to the editor concerning single moms (“Keep the family together”), one might take from it the conclusion that just being a single mom is the cause of so many problems associated with delinquent kids.

However, single parents are but a symptom of a greater societal problem.

I have raised a child alone for a decade and a half, and I will tell you that it is the hardest thing an adult will ever do if done right. And then it does not all go as planned. You stand outside the day care waiting for it to open because of needing to be at work early, having no support from the noncustodial parent. You often don’t have family support nearby. You come home from work and then start second-shift at home – making dinner, overseeing a bath, doing laundry, checking homework, then maybe an hour of “me” time before bed. Then you get up the next day and do it all over again.

Yes, good single parenthood is very, very hard, but not impossible.

As for the causes of childhood delinquency, it’s not due to locking up fathers for crimes, or not teaching sex education in schools, or whether you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth. It is because divorce and unwed pregnancy have become an accepted part of normal society. For most people today, doing the right thing is not always an easy thing, and in our society people have become attracted to the easy way, never really experiencing a true hardship.

Our society has accepted non-responsibility for personal bad behavior, and our government has aided in this bad behavior by giving handouts such as food stamps, housing and free phones. This government support of bad behavior has made them partly responsible for creating a large underclass of unproductive people in our society. But I don’t blame the recipients – it is easy for people who have no responsibility to perpetuate a condition that would result in single parenthood.

With no means of support, other than handouts from the government, it becomes a way of life for these poor people. After all, they have never been expected to be truly responsible for their actions, and this lifestyle becomes a vicious circle, handed down from generation to generation.

So who is to blame for this travesty? We are. Take a stroll down the more seedy parts of town, and observe what we as a society have accepted. It was created by the people whom we put into political power, and now college academics and know-it-alls are making excuses for this sad state of affairs rather than being truthful about the causes.

Why is this, you ask? Because telling the truth is not politically correct.

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specsta
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specsta 09/24/13 - 02:44 am
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Simple solutions

Larry Rodgers wrote - "As for the causes of childhood delinquency, it’s not due to locking up fathers for crimes, or not teaching sex education in schools, or whether you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth. It is because divorce and unwed pregnancy have become an accepted part of normal society."

What are the two main causes of divorce? Money issues and sex issues.

What is the main cause of unwed pregnancy? Sexual ignorance.

Teach young people how to handle money and how to handle the bedroom in a marriage. Watch divorce rates plummet.

Teach them how to avoid pregnancy and make this information available without moral judgment. Watch teen pregnancy rates plummet.

Your two problems are solved.

soapy_725
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soapy_725 09/24/13 - 05:09 am
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Our society has accepted non-responsibility as the norm !!!!!!
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Our society has accepted non-responsibility as the norm !!!!!!

soapy_725
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soapy_725 09/24/13 - 05:11 am
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A disease of the soul and spirit without Almighty God.
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A disease of the soul and spirit without Almighty God.

soapy_725
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soapy_725 09/24/13 - 05:12 am
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Without God's Word there is no moral compass. No right.
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Without God's Word there is no moral compass. No right.

soapy_725
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soapy_725 09/24/13 - 05:13 am
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Situation Morality has replaced "right and wrong". All is gray.
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Situation Morality has replaced "right and wrong". All is gray.

soapy_725
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soapy_725 09/24/13 - 05:14 am
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If other women & men say you are OK. You are OK. Self saving.
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If other women & men say you are OK. You are OK. Self saving.

myfather15
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myfather15 09/24/13 - 05:38 am
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"What is the main cause of

"What is the main cause of unwed pregnancy? Sexual ignorance."

Are you serious with this? IRRESPONSIBILTY is the main cause of unwed pregnancy!!! We've been teaching sex education in schools for the past 30 years, with what results? People and TEEN especially are still getting pregnant, unwed!!

How much more education would you like to give people Specsta??? Seriously? Would you like to create microchips and plant them in people's heads, giving them the information like the movie Matrix? How much education does it take to realize TWO TEENAGERS fooling about one day, unprepared; are NOT going to wait around for a condom!! Yes, on nights where there is a HIGH probability for sex; such as dances, weekend parties, etc; SOMEONE will usually have protection. But it's those OTHER times, when they are unprepared and STILL make irresponsible decision to CONTINUE, when they know there is no protection.

You can't legislate people, adults or teens; to be responsible human beings. You can't FORCE them to make responsible decisions, rather than FUN decisions!!

"Teach them how to avoid pregnancy and make this information available without moral judgment. Watch teen pregnancy rates plummet."

Do you honestly believe this stuff? Do you honestly believe there are high schoolers who DO NOT know how to avoid getting pregnant? Have you spent much time in schools or with teenagers today? You would honestly have to go to pre-middle school to find students who DON'T know how to prevent pregnancy!! But there is a BIG difference in KNOWING how to prevent it and in the heat of the moment, actually stopping the moment and taking measures to prevent it!!

I get so sick of hearing the liberal mantra of "Education, Education." We are doing FINE with education!! We need no more or no less education than we have now!!! What we NEED is for those adults and teens to IMPLEMENT what they've been taught already!! We NEED responsibility!!!

chascushman
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chascushman 09/24/13 - 06:58 am
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"What is the main cause of
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"What is the main cause of unwed pregnancy? Sexual ignorance."
TM, over 70% of black babies are born out of wedlock. The great society, liberals, democrats and black leaders have destroyed the majority of black families and many white families. They are black people's worse enemies yet they keep voting for them.

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deestafford 09/24/13 - 07:04 am
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Mr Rodgers is right on target as is MyFather. Specta, as usual

is not even in the range fan.

When I criticize "single parents" I mean unwed mothers and irresponsible sperm donors. Parents who become "single" as a result of death of a spouse or divorce are a completely different category. However, no-fault divorce has contributed to the problem of some single parents who in days gone by would not have been divorce when getting out of a commitment was harder.

Mr Rodgers is right in his pointing out that society's "slouching toward Gomorrah" is the cause of most of the ills we suffer today. I believe we can trace this downward slide to the mid-1960's and the Great Society utopiaism.

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Jon Lester 09/24/13 - 08:20 am
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Which would you prefer, single parenthood, or dysfunctional

households in a constant state of conflict? Some parents really don't need to be married, and the health and happiness of the children are none the worse for it.

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rmwhitley 09/24/13 - 08:25 am
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Amen,
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Amen, Amen!

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jimmymac 09/24/13 - 08:57 am
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MYFATHER
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Very well stated sir! We live in a society that is loath to hold anyone accountable for their actions. Girls getting pregnant must be someone's else's fault. Woman's lib wanted girls getting pregnant to be guilt free and so now we have a tidal wave of young girls getting pregnant. Stop paying girls for doing bad things and make her parents responsible for raising her mistake. Hold the male responsible for his actions as well. We shouldn't have to pay for someone's else's mistakes.

deestafford
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deestafford 09/24/13 - 09:26 am
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Jon Lester

Statistics don't support your assertion if you are talking about unwed mothers. People should not become parents if they are not married. I will concede where there are some single people who are well off enough financially and otherwise to adopt and raise a child in a responsible and loving environment.

I can also see your point of divorce if the home is in a state of conflict and turmoil being detrimental to the rearing of children.

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 09/24/13 - 12:13 pm
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Quote from LTE

"one might take from it the conclusion that just being a single mom is the cause of so many problems associated with delinquent kids"

I am not the greatest husband nor father, BUT haveing a two parent home has its BIG advantages. My wife and I have faught both verbally and physically, BUT we have managed to stay together, if for no other reason, we don't believe in devorce!!

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 09/24/13 - 12:17 pm
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Quote from LTE

"I have raised a child alone for a decade and a half, and I will tell you that it is the hardest thing an adult will ever do if done right"

It is not the readers' business, BUT you submited the letter. If your child's father is not dead, you BOTH should have made the sacrfice to stay together!

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 09/24/13 - 12:22 pm
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Quote from LTE

"And then it does not all go as planned. You stand outside the day care waiting for it to open because of needing to be at work early, having no support from the noncustodial parent. You often don’t have family support nearby. You come home from work and then start second-shift at home – making dinner, overseeing a bath, doing laundry, checking homework, then maybe an hour of “me” time before bed. Then you get up the next day and do it all over again"

The reason I copied so much is just to simply say, "A single parent is doing the work of two parents!!" It would be easy to go into deppression having to do this everyday!!

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 01:18 pm
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Bledsoe, just guessing

But I would say that Larry is the father.

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 09/24/13 - 01:29 pm
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KSL @ 2:18

"But I would say that Larry is the father"

YES, I didn't catch that. Does this make me shovanist?? Besides, I think I should be given some slack when being with this group, "I don't even know who is a man or a woman!!" It would be nice to know how to address this group appropriately!! Is that asking TOOOOO much??!!

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Steve62351 09/24/13 - 04:11 pm
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Thanks, but why Is the Root Cause so hard to understand?

Larry Rodgers, Thank you for writing to the editor. I appreciate your taking the time to write a well thought-out reply to Steve Smith's letter to the editor about the lack of Moms and Dads rearing their children together as a two-partner team. But I am baffled by most of the comments to your letter and the original letter by Mr. Smith because the evidence is all around us: Children not raised by both their parents struggle more in life and wind-up in trouble more than those who do get the benefit of being reared by both their Mom and Dad. It's just plain fact. No politics. No bias. No agenda. No fiddling with statistics. We see it every day on the local newspaper: teen stabs another teen and Mom says he is hard to talk to (I guess Dad was sleeping?), two boys shoot 18 month old in stroller and the Mom tries to get rid of the gun they used (I guess the Dad was at work?), boy at a party shoots another boy at the party and the Mom is worried (I guess Dads don't worry, the Dad wasn't mentioned in the article), at the national level the daily murders in Chicago by teenage boys in gangs is accepted as normal now, (do you REALLY believe those boys were raised by the Moms AND Dads?). So I'm at a loss to understand or explain why society as a whole refuses to see the root cause is Moms and Dads not staying together to raise their own children. It isn't some mysterious lack of either Education or Personal Responsibility. Those come FROM the home where Mom and Dad instill the value of school and getting an education and nurture the child's development of a sense of self-responsibility. There is no big bad wolf out there causing children's poor performance in school or violent actions or active sex life or obesity or etc. problems: The problem is in the lack of being raised in a Mom and Dad family. No matter how you spin it, a single Mom or a single Dad is not a family and can't raise a balanced child who has learned how to live from a positive female role model (Mom) and positive male role model (Dad). It isn't complicated. It isn't political. It isn't religious. It's the only proven success model for raising well adjusted children capable of living successful lives over thousands of years of experimenting by human societies all over the planet. So why do so many people try to duck it, or ignore it, or pretend it isn't true, or argue otherwise? I don't know, but the nation is going to continue to slide into decline if we don't insist on children, all children, being raised by their Mom and Dad. Our lives will become more chaotic and stressed because these un-raised children will bring more and more turmoil and unrest into society and thus our lives.

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Bodhisattva 09/24/13 - 04:33 pm
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Obviously, someone should

Obviously, someone should stay in an abusive relationship "for the sake of the children". It doesn't matter if your spouse chooses to continue dating, and could possibly bring home a present that penicillin won't cure, tough it out "for the kids". Verbal and physical fights? Hey, the kids expand their vocabulary and their self defense skills. Face it, a two parent home isn't always the best for kids. We don't get to choose what our taxes go to. You gripe about food stamps and welfare for the poor, I don't like mine subsidizing oil companies while they make record profits or the tax breaks to the 18,000 households that had an AGI above $500,000, but paid zero income tax (2010).

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 05:11 pm
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Shovanist?

No. I was just pointing out the need to read carefully.

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 05:38 pm
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Including the name of the

Including the name of the author of the letter or article.

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CobaltGeorge 09/24/13 - 06:17 pm
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Mr. Larry Rodgers

A very fine accurate written letter on the problems that our American Society is dealing with today.

Some have covered and backed your letter with good long educated comments..and then some.....

I have always been a person of few words, So I will just say that you should receive an A+++ on it. After given the truthful facts, you provided the final downfall answer of the major problem in one sentence.

"Because telling the truth is not politically correct."

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 09/24/13 - 06:36 pm
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KSL

"No. I was just pointing out the need to read carefully"
"Including the name of the author of the letter or article"

Has ANYONE ever accused you of being NICE??

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 09:30 pm
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Actually, yes.

Actually, yes.

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KSL 09/24/13 - 09:38 pm
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Multiple times. I have gotten

Multiple times. I have gotten evaluated my entire working career. I have never been confronted with a negative comment. I have even been credited with retaining clients before I was the principal. They stuck with my boss because of me.

Anymore questions?

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 09:49 pm
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I guess it was just not nice,

I guess it was just not nice, though. But nice got me there first. Who wants to work with someone they don't consider nice?

What successful husband wants to have a wife not considered nice?

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 09:43 pm
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Actually the consideration of

Actually the consideration of being nice has multiple levels. It depends on the needs of the person feeling in need of niceness as to whether the giver of niceness lives up.

KSL
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KSL 09/24/13 - 09:58 pm
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bledsoe

There are people here trying to help you have your posts taken seriously.

We say, please try to spell correctly. That adds cred.

Do some reaearch. Your emotions and hearsay from the mainstream media just don't mean anything.

Bodhisattva
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Bodhisattva 09/25/13 - 12:11 pm
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Don't sweat spelling and

Don't sweat spelling and grammatical errors on here. It's just a comment section and, if life me, most folks are probably doing something else while typing. That is, of course, unless it leads to a funny or embarrassing faux pas. Or, like me, they could be trying to type on the blessed tiny #!#@& touch screen of a Kindle Fire and have it mis letters and missspaces and auto fill word's that are incorrect. A pain in the rear this modern technology. I need to get. It replace& anyway s8nce it just gave a good example. Hit space and sometimes get a period and sometimes get a character from a secondary screen. Weird and a pain.

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