Marriage must be for all

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On behalf of the Board of Directors of Augusta Pride, I wanted to commend The Augusta Chronicle and especially Staff Writer Steve Crawford for a beautifully written commemorative piece on the tragic death of Aiken Public Safety Officer Master Cpl. Sandy Rogers and the ongoing struggles of her unofficial spouse, Officer Frances Williams.

While their relationship was never recognized in law, and possibly not by some members of their family and community, they were very much a couple, though maybe not one as common as those they served to protect on a daily basis.

While Frances and Sandy chose to live a quiet, unassuming life – be it out of either fear of, or respect for, their community – it is nice to see this community coming together to acknowledge that many people make sacrifices to protect the safety of our families and friends, be they straight or gay, and they deserve our respect. The individual religious choices each of us makes for ourselves should not influence how we treat one another in the public square, where people of many faiths and beliefs come together.

Relationships such as theirs deserve to be protected because they make our community stronger, not weaker. Frances and Sandy would not have weakened the institution of marriage, and they would not have destroyed it – but instead they serve as an example of why marriage is still an important institution for our society.

While we agree with local radio show host Austin Rhodes that “gay folks need the same protection under law that married people have,” we disagree that this legal protection can truly come in a separate but equal institution called legal domestic partnerships. There is nothing religious about the word “marriage” when a straight couple marries at City Hall, two atheists marry at a seaside resort or a convicted felon marries his prison pen pal.

Instead, in Georgia and South Carolina it means they are straight. Marriage is an institution of commitment, born in love and recognized by society. We don’t need two institutions – straight marriage and gay domestic partnerships – to recognize our families. Officer Williams lost her wife; she did not lose a housemate.

(The writer is public relations director for Augusta Pride.)

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YeCats
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YeCats 01/29/13 - 11:44 pm
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I'd support putting same-sex

I'd support putting same-sex marriage legalization on a Ga/SC ballot,

and let the voters decide.

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corgimom 01/30/13 - 03:57 am
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If gay people want to marry,

If gay people want to marry, who does it hurt?

peace4784
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peace4784 01/30/13 - 05:41 am
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Homosexuals are human and
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Homosexuals are human and deserve the respect as humans made in God's image. However, Marriage is ordained by God, a male and a female. Not pretenders. To recognize homosexual marriage is to renounce God and the New Testament. Homosexuals need the same protections under the law as do the other sinners listed in the bible. Other than that, they deserve no other special privileges. The president who claims to be a Christian and any Christian pastor are not above God and have biblical authority to over rule what God has established. That being said, Jesus did say that Satan is the God of this world. That means only Satan's true followers are endorsing homosexual marrage. A true follower of Jesus and God, be they president, pastor, celebity (including Austin Rhodes) will never endorse homosexual marriage. The fact that homosexual marriage is allowed in this country means there are many religious folk pretending to be Christian for selfserving reasons. I am not one of the frauds. I will openly debate anyone on this issue, anytime. KAP

sha ron
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sha ron 01/30/13 - 06:08 am
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Is the great state of Georgia

Is the great state of Georgia coming to the 21st century without kicking and screaming

peace4784
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peace4784 01/30/13 - 06:09 am
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The marriage institution is
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The marriage institution is now on the same level as a mental institution. In a godless society nothing is sacred. Feelings have become God.

carcraft
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carcraft 01/30/13 - 06:30 am
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When I was in college I had a

When I was in college I had a friend whose father formed a relationship with another couple, Yes it was a three some. They owned a house together, lived together and raised 4 children together. I was clearly a committed relationship. Should the three have been allowed to "marry"? Oh by the way, it was also one of the most dysfunctional situations I have ever run into in my life and all the children were royally screwed up and to this day equate manipulating, lying and deceit with love . So please tell me where we draw the line? I read where a sperm donor to a lesbian couple is being sued by the state for child support after the couple divorced because he is the biological father and one of the lesbians is now on welfare and the other is a dead beat...Please drag me kicking and screaming into the 21 century if we go there at all! If I can I want to stay in the twenty century were there was at least a modicum of sanity!

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Fiat_Lux 01/30/13 - 06:50 am
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Uhm, marriage already is available for all adults

There just isn't any such thing as a marriage between two members of the same sex. One day there may be a legal partnership that includes a sexual relationship and inheritance, but it will not be a marriage.

So, Christopher, kindly call it something else. Choosing to label a donkey as a unicorn doesn't change the fact that it's still and only a donkey.

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TrukinRanger 01/30/13 - 07:10 am
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It's time
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Equal marriage rights are long over-due. Many straight couples have dysfunctional relationships, multiple marriages, children from previous relationships and on track to have children from future relationships so obviously it is not going to be gays being allowed to marry that will ruin this union. There is too much time, energy, and money being thrown into this fight against people that just want to be with their loved ones and have protection under the law.

Fiat_Lux
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Fiat_Lux 01/30/13 - 07:11 am
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Hey, why don't we put other things on the ballot for voters

like allowing man-boy love. After all, NAMBLA members are absolutely certain that boys love being in a sexual relationship with grown men, multiple grown men.

Or perhaps we could slide a little bit further and allow inter-family marriages. I mean, the Hawaiian rulers did it for centuries--well, until the genetic consequences made it impossible to continue. But, hey, what's wrong with having a few more genetic defects popping up in the genome? It's all about doing what we want to do, right?

Or, better still, we should have 6-year-old girls being sold to their 18-year-old cousins as child brides. They do it in Afghanistan, so why not here? The children just love it, I'm sure. And it's even called marriage too.

My personal fav is the idea of being able to include our dachshund in our marriage. He already shares our bed and we love him, so why the heck not!

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Bizkit 01/30/13 - 07:23 am
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Right now it is against Bill

Right now it is against Bill Clinton's and Congress laws. The state allowing gay unions need to be taken to the SCOTUS. But Fiat has it correct -does this mean we accept mormon multiple marriage or how about some 14 year old in love with some 30 year old, in-breeding with family members, man-boy love similar to an underage girl who willingly participates. LIke the Green Mile Actor in his 50's marriage the that 15 year old. I actually use to support gay unions but our President's penchant for hating freedom for some and offering freedom to those he favors is too capricious for my taste. Take my guns, I take your marriage. I've always supported abortion, but now if people hate freedom then I will too. Sad state of affairs-like children in the school yard.

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Bizkit 01/30/13 - 07:26 am
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In the background of all the

In the background of all the goings on attacking freedoms, it seems so ridiculous to try to make an argument supporting a freedom for a group in favor. If you believe in freedom for all, then it has to be for all. Not giving some a freedom and taking others freedom.

Fiat_Lux
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Fiat_Lux 01/30/13 - 07:41 am
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It's not about freedom

It's about reality.

carcraft
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carcraft 01/30/13 - 07:43 am
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Fiat Lux, reality and

Fiat Lux, reality and liberalism are as oil and water!

Humble Angela
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Humble Angela 01/30/13 - 07:49 am
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Gays have the exact same
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Gays have the exact same restrictions on marriage as anyone else in this country. Someone please try to prove me wrong.

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OpenCurtain 01/30/13 - 07:52 am
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While we are at it, how about also

putting a some concrete foundations under and back into Marriage?

Eliminate NO-FAULT Easy Divorce and reduce the acceptable reasons for divorce, while there are minor kids involved.

Eliminate Hookup and Shack up unions that produce kids and allow the daddy to split.

Re-Instate Common Law Marriages after 6 months, or are automatic with a 6 month term pregnancy, or at the birth of a child.

Reinstate Adultery Laws and tighten up bigamy laws.

Allow the injured spouse to sue the Guilty parties for home busting.

Bizkit
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Bizkit 01/30/13 - 08:03 am
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The Prez said he had evolved

The Prez said he had evolved on the gay marriage issue, which actually no he is still a dinosaur. But evolution is driving marriage extinct. More than half of all kids are born to parents out of wedlock. Most young couples in committed relationships aren't married. Marriage is dead. No one cares anymore about a "technicality" of marriage. It really makes no sense for the gay community to protest so much because they aren't being denied anything. They need to evolve rather trying to make some point they are "normal" and force people to accept them. NO different than some jehova's witness banging on your door to accept them too.

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Techfan 01/30/13 - 08:15 am
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I've known quite a few

I've known quite a few man-woman 2 person marriages that were totally dysfunctional with screwed up kids. Some where the father was a preacher. People are as different as night and day. There's no way to base an argument on what happened with one family will happen to another. No one has a monopoly on screwed up kids or a screwed up relationship.

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nofanofobama 01/30/13 - 08:34 am
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FOREVER --the traditional

FOREVER --the traditional man/woman marriage was and is the cornerstone of all civilazation. without it there is NO civilizations or societies. just a fact...call it what you want**gay relationship** but its not marriage..and to argue that a marriage which has its roots in GENSIS is not religious in meaning is absurd..if two got married in a civil court it still doesnt change the originial intent of marriage...or its orgin.

nofanofobama
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nofanofobama 01/30/13 - 08:39 am
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HA..agreed just like the boy

HA..agreed just like the boy scouts restrictions apply equally to everyone..but why is it not discrimination against religion to insist they change to meet a personal preference.

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Humble Angela 01/30/13 - 08:50 am
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"There's no way to base an
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"There's no way to base an argument on what happened with one family will happen to another."

"I've known quite a few man-woman 2 person marriages that were totally dysfunctional with screwed up kids."

"Some where the father was a preacher."

hmmmmm...can't base it on one, but "quite a few" and "some" will be a good scientific study.

carcraft
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carcraft 01/30/13 - 08:51 am
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Tech fan, correct, but let's

Tech fan, correct, but let's just screw the whole thing up further by calling any combination or congregation of people joining together marriage! Then sperm donors can be dragged into court for child support, more kids can be on welfare and the counterfeit of love, lust, can rule the day!

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ultrarnr 01/30/13 - 08:55 am
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Latest Poll
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President Obama is riding a wave of personal popularity into his second term, with his highest favorability ratings since his first year in office, according to a new Washington Post-ABC News poll.

Fully 60 percent of Americans have a favorable impression of Obama in the new poll, up slightly from October but a clear shift in opinion from an election year in which his ratings hovered in the mid-to-low 50s. And by 39 percent to 26 percent, the president now has more “strongly” positive ratings than strongly negative reviews, breaking a two-year stretch in which intense opposition was on par with (or higher than) intense support.

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Techfan 01/30/13 - 08:58 am
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Since it was in the Bible,

Since it was in the Bible, can we have 700 wives and 300 concubines? I'm going to need a bigger house. If it has its roots in Genesis and there were only 2 people, wouldn't there have to have been quite a bit of incest? Is it literal or a metaphor? What about Jewish writings and the Dead Sea Scrolls that mention Lilith?

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HenryWalker3rd 01/30/13 - 09:01 am
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"technicality" of marriage."
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Who created marriage?

Where does the term come from?

Lets start at the orgin and them maybe, JUST MAYBE, we will have an answer.

Humble Angela
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Humble Angela 01/30/13 - 09:02 am
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So where is the line drawn?
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So where is the line drawn?

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Humble Angela 01/30/13 - 09:03 am
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I would just like to know why
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I would just like to know why the government thinks it should have ANYTHING to do with marriage.........imho.

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z2smith 01/30/13 - 09:09 am
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Equal Protection—Loving v. Virginia

The arguments’ core is “equal protection”. 1967 Supreme Court decision Loving v. Virginia established that traditional marriage is not narrowly defined, allowing for the interpretation of mixed-race couples as a stable family unit. It is difficult to understand how more marriages would be bad for marriage. The harm comes to marriage from bad unstable marriages, where it is not taken seriously—and that is far too common. family is the smallest social unit, and stable families are the cornerstone of society and ensuing all families are integrated, respected, validated, and supported will benefit society overall.
Lonzo

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RMSHEFF 01/30/13 - 09:10 am
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This is all part of "

This is all part of " fundamental change in America" we have been promised. We will not recognize America in a few more years.

Humble Angela
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Humble Angela 01/30/13 - 09:25 am
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Again....gays have the EXACT
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Again....gays have the EXACT same rights as anyone else. Prove me wrong.

Humble Angela
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Humble Angela 01/30/13 - 09:28 am
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"ensuing all families are
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"ensuing [ensuring] all families are integrated, respected, validated, and supported will benefit society overall."

Sounds good. Explain how. Or are we to just accept your statement as a fact?

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