Give kids the greatest gift

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For moms, dads and grandparents: When giving gifts this year, give just one or two things from your Santa Claus lists, so that the next generation grows up believing in its own hard work and not expecting everything to come easy. It also teaches them that things – material possessions – do not equal love.

Give firm boundaries. Discipline is the other half of praise and affection. Kids don’t need threats and promises, just the expectation of simple commands followed right away with consequences if they are not, nor promises of things if they do something right. We need to expect good behavior and be surprised when they go off the path.

Don’t give pity, sympathy or bribes such as things, money, trips or entertainment. Whatever you teach them to expect as children, they will continue to expect in life, which is one reason our prisons are bursting at
the seams. Giving children too much help leads to addiction to things, drugs, alcohol and food. Exemplify contentment.

The best gifts you can give your child are quality time in conversation, answering questions, turning off the TV and other electronic devices except for a few hours per week (decreasing their chances of poor school performance, diabetes, heart disease and obesity), and praying with and for them specifically. Children need the gifts of independence and trust (set boundaries but let them explore), purpose (you need them), and respect (if you say you’re going to do something, do it). From toddler hood, they need increasing chores, and need to see you work and how you set everything aside to do it.

The greatest gift is your own visible dependence on God to guide you. Our children need to learn to ask God for their needs, not wants, this Christmas, and show thanksgiving for our nation’s liberties and abundance, even as many of us feel bruised from election results.

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peace4784
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peace4784 11/14/12 - 06:54 am
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Just Walk the Talk
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Teaching children about Santa Claus is promoting materialism and selfishness. Christmas is celebrating the birth of Jesus. Therefore, Jesus is the lone name on any Christmas list. The only gift children need is the truth about the life of Jesus. Jesus set a good example in word and deed. Jesus served, loved, and sacrificed to uplift all humanity. If parents and grandparents would practice what Jesus taught, the children would be just fine. Just walk the talk.

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soapy_725 11/14/12 - 09:17 am
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Greatest Gift of All......
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The introduction to Jesus Christ as a personal Savior. Not just at Christmas.

Sadly as God's word declares, we live in a world society that has a Santa Claus mentality. Wants outweigh needs. In fact one is indistinguishable from the other. Life is one continual gift receiving binge. And if it stops, not just the children will be crying.

Our great leader has declared that every good and perfect gift come from the government. Our great leader's fruits declare his true father. The father of lies, deceit, chaos and death.

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Fiat_Lux 11/14/12 - 09:49 am
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Excellent letter

and excellent advice.

If more than a fraction of us Americans would believe it and put it into practice, things might actually improve for us all.

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