Schools no substitute for home

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This is written in regard to Butch Palmer’s letter (“No vulgarity,” June 17) in which he questions how much effort teachers exert toward teaching young people not to litter, loiter and ride in booming cars, and that his school taxes are not alleviating these problems.

First, teachers are not their students’ parents. Public schools, as I remember, were established primarily to teach children in academics for them to become educated and productive citizens. Morals, values and proper conduct in society were the responsibility of parents and family, aided by churches and supported by the schools.

However, now our schools are expected to assume more and more responsibilities of those of the home. Teachers already deal on a daily basis with many societal ills experienced by their students while still working to fulfill their primary job of teaching academics to all students. This places a greater strain both on time and resources on our schools.

In Helen Blocker-Adams’ June 17 column regarding characteristics and examples of successful single fathers (“In changing society, more single dads stand up for their children”), good parenting is exactly what is needed in reaching so many of our students today –
not just single dads but any other type of parental structure.

Second, I sympathize with Mr. Palmer and his frustration with the vulgarity in his neighborhood; however, teachers and other school personnel also are frustrated with this behavior. Vulgarity has become all too common in our society along with a general disrespect of authority.

Public schools can support good behavior in society, but they cannot be a substitute for the home, which is the first and primary source for installing appropriate values and behavior in children.

(The writer is the District 10 at-large representative for the Richmond County Board of Education.)

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Craig Spinks
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Craig Spinks 06/20/12 - 02:50 am
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The road to Hell is paved with good intentions.

With all due respect to Mrs. Minchew, RCBOE members must do more than pay lip service to their role in promoting civility in RCSS schools, particularly, and in Richmond County, generally.

In many- if not most- of the schools the RCBOE oversees, the lack of civility has undermined the instructional and learning processes.

What is the RCBOE doing to establish good teaching and learning conditions in its schools? Members' writing a LTTE and succumbing to racial antipathy in the transfer of a principal do not constitute actions which will establish school climates which will promote student learning and graduate success.

Dr. Craig Spinks/ Georgians for Educational Excellence

copperhead
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copperhead 06/20/12 - 04:17 am
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It is the government's

It is the government's responsibility to raise children. The government is supposed to take care of citizens from cradle to grave. The government lnows what is best for us all!

mikesaul
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mikesaul 06/20/12 - 07:35 am
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Sad, but true!

Unfortunately, the simple fact is that civility must begin at home! It make no difference how much time and resources ($$$) are wasted, and I do mean "wasted" in this case, on teaching kids common civility, respect, and morality. If those are not taught at home by the parents, they will not, generally, be learned at school. It's a simple concept that teachers everywhere understand...if the parent(s) don't teach them how they should behave in society, what makes anyone think that some stranger in a classroom will have any more authority to do so? And if the parent(s) do try and the child refuses to listen, why would they suddenly listen to that same stranger?

Morality and civility must begin at home, and at an early age! If the foundation is not there, the teachers will have no chance of success, either!

allhans
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allhans 06/20/12 - 09:54 am
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How can the parents teach the

How can the parents teach the children civility when so many parents don't know the meaning of civility. We are being unfair to children when we say a teacher shouldn't correct a child. It only takes a minute for a teacher to explain to a child about acceptable behavior. It might have to be repeated once or twice but the child will get it. "It's the fair way". Remember?
If we can teach thousands of children who aren't citizens, surely we can do better for our own.

avidreader
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avidreader 06/20/12 - 10:11 am
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Good Letter

The "F" bomb is so engrained in the teenage vocabulary, that many times the kids do not even realize they are using it. And I am not naive concerning teen habits. I had to DEMAND that a parent participate in a teacher/parent conference last year. Her daughter continually used the "F" word in class and continually apologized -- "it just slipped out."

Concerning foul language, many of our teens do not understand that their casual use of this language is extremely offensive to others. The mother I met with said she "took a belt to her [daughter's] butt" when she stole a pack of cigarettes. However, the same mother attempted to justify her daughter's nasty mouth as a "cultural thing".

Once again, I don't get it. And by the way, the mother did not say "butt".

CobaltGeorge
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CobaltGeorge 06/20/12 - 07:17 pm
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I hope it didn't take more

I hope it didn't take more than 3 seconds to realize what type of mother you were dealing with...the answer as to why the daughter used the "F" word was right in front of you! It taught the "cultural thing".

mikesaul
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mikesaul 06/21/12 - 12:53 pm
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"We are being unfair to

"We are being unfair to children when we say a teacher shouldn't correct a child."

That leads directly to my other big issue with our current culture of "spare the child"! When I was growing up, I know that if I did something wrong, I would face the consequences, often soap in the mouth for fowl language, a swift hand to the backside, or for really heinous acts, my dad's belt. But, you know what? I learned! Nowadays, the kids have all the power, at home and in school. We can't discipline a child in any way, anymore. Parents are afraid of being labeled and "abuser' for simply yelling at their child, much less spanking.

But, then again, that is the liberal agenda. There should be no consequences for bad choices or bad actions. We should all have equal portions of the pie, regardless of the integrity and effort applied in the pursuit...We are all "worthy" of the same as everyone else!

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