So much for the village

Here's what it really takes to raise a child -- solid parenting

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It takes a village to raise a child – so we’re told.

If it’s true, then the American “village” is doing a perfectly awful job of it.

You see the evidence of that all around you – and we discussed what societal ills the local criminal justice system observes in a Feb. 24 editorial (“What the courts see”). More recently, we’ve seen a brutal head-bashing attack on a couple on Augusta’s Riverwalk May 3 – and the shooting death of barber and father-to-be Zannie Worrell in a May 18 robbery at his Beech Island shop.

Each of the two horrific crimes allegedly occurred at the hands of what have to be considered feral beasts.

You have to wonder what kind of society spawns such creatures that have such little regard for human life.

Well, again, our friends on the front lines of the criminal justice system needn’t wonder. They see the problem every day, and they have a fairly good fix on the primary cause:

The family.

Or the lack thereof.

As it turns out, it doesn’t take a village. It takes a family.

Federal Judge Randy Hall recently gave something of a landmark speech to the Augusta Kiwanis Club, which was printed in The Augusta Chronicle’s May 16 Richmond County Neighbors section. Hall spoke of “the total disintegration of the American family over the last 50 years, and the devastating economic and social costs associated with this trend.

“Folks, I have been actively involved in child advocacy in this community for over 25 years. I can honestly say that, in my opinion, this is the definitive child issue of our generation.”

Hall noted that in 1965 – before the implementation of the “Great Society” – 24 percent of black babies and 3.1 percent of whites were born to unwed mothers; today, those numbers are 73 and 29.

Certainly single parenthood isn’t singularly responsible for the breeding of young toughs. Worrell, the slain barber, was the upstanding product of a single mom.

But there can be no doubt that the batting average is lower in single-parent homes – and, indeed, the statistics bear that out.

“Single-parent families are more than four times as likely as two-parent households to be in poverty,” Hall said. “Research shows that children born into a single-parent household have low academic achievement, higher school dropout rates, much higher rates of criminal activity, drug use, incarceration, death and welfare use. A very high incidence of child abuse and neglect also plagues these homes. A study from the late 1990s revealed that a higher percentage of single-parent families with children in a neighborhood results in higher rates of violent crimes and burglary.”

And, from his own experience, he said, “Over 90 percent of the defendants that I have sentenced over the last five years have been reared outside of a normal two-parent family.”

Whereas years ago single parenthood carried with it a societal stigma – holding the incidence of it down – today unwed births are not only considered normal, Hall said, but “I am horrified to frequently encounter pride (among single mothers) over their offspring numbers.”

Judge Hall, too, doesn’t blame single motherhood in general. He lived for a time in a single-mother household himself.

What he does sound the alarm about is “the reckless creation of multiple innocent children by men and women without regard to their ability to provide for the economic, social, spiritual and parental needs of those children.”

As evidence, the judge proffered the case of “a 27-year-old man, with seven children by five different mothers, none of whom he ever married. The only reason that he did not have more children is because he had spent a number of years incarcerated. The first child, he told me proudly, was conceived when he was 14 years old and the mother was 18.”

He adds the case of a 26-year-old man “with six children by four different mothers, none of whom he married. In his case, two of his children were born on the same day to two different women.”

Often, the mothers never seek court-ordered child support – and perhaps for good reason. “I regularly see men in their 20s who have never held an actual job,” Hall said – noting that they nonetheless “have cheerfully created multiple children for which they have no intention of being responsible for their upbringing or marrying their mothers.”

Hall suggests, as a first step, not “shooting the messengers” who point out these problems or possible solutions – such as Bill Cosby and Dr. Ben Carson. That’s a tall order in itself: The media promote an anything-goes, none-of-your-business lifestyle. Even while they promulgate the myth that it takes a village to raise a child, they try to prevent the village from speaking up. We’re expected to pay our taxes and shut up, never questioning where our money is going or how responsible its recipients are being with it.

All this has happened despite massive government spending that is leaving our children with a legacy of debt.

The village has had its chance.

It’s time for the parents to step up and do their job.

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deestafford 06/09/13 - 06:19 am
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Judge Hall's piece in the paper was one of the best

ever published and should be mandatory part of the education system. It should also be the foundation of many sermons from every pulpit in the area.
When single mothers are talked about in the vein that Judge Hall was talking he was not talking about the widows or the divorcees.
Just yesterday I saw on TV a young man in Tennessee who had 23 children by 14 different women and he was proud of that. They were receiving $7000 a month from the state in the form of support. He was unable to pay any child support. Think of how many of those will end up of in prison because of the ego of this low life. What kind of example will this serve to the children, especially to the young girls.
The other day the Chronicle ran a story about a mother and daughter having a fight with someone else and they were arrested. Did you notice the ages of the mother and daughter? 26 and 13! A culture can never survive when babies are having babies and it is condoned and honored by society.
Bring back the shame of having babies out of wedlock and bring back orphanages for children whom the parent(s) can't or won't support.

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myfather15 06/09/13 - 07:22 am
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Reminds me of the woman in Florida who said.....

"Somebody's got to pay for aaaaaaaalll these childrens."

And that somebody to them is YOU AND ME!!! Because they can't seem to grasp a single ounce of responsiblity!! I have ZERO problems with helping those who STRIVE to make it on their own, but are having a hard time; life is tough. But to simply give $7000.00 monthly to scumbags who have no desire to provide anything themselves; gets my blood boiling!!

I suppose it gets my blood boiling because I experience these people on a daily basis. Unfortunately, in my line of work; most of what we deal with is the stinky arm pit of America. I constantly get to see women addicted to meth and crack, becoming pregnant over and over. I get to see the same women, who just had a baby taken away from them, because they tested positive for meth; just to become pregnant again. Most of the time these babies end up with a family member (parent or grandparent); who are already struggling to make it themselves.

Every time I see a story like this; it brings my memory to a certainly young girl we've arrested numerous times for meth. She is only 20 years old and already has had three babies and just became pregnant again a couple months ago. Last time I dealt with her, I had stopped a guy and arrested him for meth in the vehicle. While talking to me, he pleaded with me to not arrest him because he had to get his kids from a hotel room. I asked who was watching his children and he said her name. I knew automatically this wasn't a good thing; so we responded straight to the hotel room. There we found her babysitting 7 children from three different people. Inside the hotel room we found over 2 grams of methamphetamine, several meth "pipes" and a small amount of marijuana.

They had been living in this sleezy hotel room for a month and this room was disgusting. I already had knowledge this 20 year old already had three of her own children taken away and placed with her grandparents. During this investigation she "Swore" the meth wasn't hers and she was just babysitting for this guy and another woman and didn't know the meth was in there. Guess what she said to "Prove" she isn't doing meth anymore? She said "I'm haven't done meth in 2 months because I'M PREGNANT."

Well, guess what? We called DFACS to the scene. All adults parties involved were drug tested. The young girl tested positive for Meth, marijuana AND certain types of pain medications which she didn't have a presciption for; imagine that!!!! She actually lied to me, who woulda thunk it.

These type of digusting worms are contributing GREATLY to the demise of our society!! I certainly HOPE they can get their lives turned around; as I've seen a few examples of someone doing so. But, they choose of their own free will to make these decisions and they shall without repentence and changing their lives; they are in deep trouble. Eventually, we shall live in a world free of these type people.

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RMSHEFF 06/09/13 - 07:28 am
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Excellent editorial.

Excellent editorial.

itsanotherday1
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itsanotherday1 06/09/13 - 08:29 am
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Good editorial, but it isn't

Good editorial, but it isn't news to anyone paying attention; we've said the same forever.

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Bulldog 06/09/13 - 08:34 am
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I have not read a better editorial in a long time!

There is little more to say, except where are our community leaders? Where are those who claim to provide a moral compass for our community? I can't recall hearing anything at all from our clergy...

itsanotherday1
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itsanotherday1 06/09/13 - 08:48 am
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So, how do you fix it?

We have a solid grasp of the issue; but how do you get around the lib-weenies ( and some conserves too) to start addressing it?

1. Sterilization would be great, but this isn't communist China.

2. More money would just get frittered away rather than used for improving their situation (they are impoverished for a reason).

3. Many oppose taxpayer funded "family planning".

Realistically, what would YOU do if made king and could have any constitutional law passed at your whim? I would especially like to hear from specsta, rhetor, etc. that think conservatives hate poor people.

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chascushman 06/09/13 - 08:57 am
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“Hall noted that in 1965 –
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“Hall noted that in 1965 – before the implementation of the “Great Society” – 24 percent of black babies and 3.1 percent of whites were born to unwed mothers; today, those numbers are 73 and 29.”
This is what the liberals/democrats and black leaders have created. The govamint schools did its part instead of bringing black kids up they dumbed all the kids down. Thank you so much liberals.

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avidreader 06/09/13 - 09:19 am
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The "Baby Bump"

The fifteen year old girl prances through the hallways of her school. Her admiring friends stop to fawn and actually refer to the swollen belly as a "baby bump". The young girl's head swells with pride.

Well, here's some statistics to add to Judge Hall's account, and this statistic is not printed anywhere. Throughout my years of teaching, I have only had ONE pregnant teen pass my class. The many, many, many others all failed miserably due mostly to absenteeism. The one that made it had a mom who showed up for parent/teacher conferences and actually replied to my e-mails and phone calls. This mother held her daughter accountable and also served as her daughter's academic tutor. The young teen eventually graduated, having passed all her state-mandated graduation tests. This young woman is a statistic.

There are many stupid mothers out there who actually think that pregnancy should fit into the category that allows the wayward daughter a weekly home-bound teacher, another expensive slam to the taxpayer. Fortunately, the educational system does not agree, but it's probably just a matter of time until the bleeding hearts acquiesce.

I am a compassionate and caring teacher; however, I draw the line with teen pregnancy when the condition is used as a crutch. I always offer the mothers of these irresponsible teens a reasonable set of study materials to help with the transition. And guess what? The answer is NEVER!

There are no stigmas attached to teen pregnancy. Maybe there should be; I'm not a member of the morality police. People that live in generational poverty do not see the world as Randy Hall does. However, I do know that our public education systems many times promote self-esteem in deference to personal accountability. And for some odd reason, pregnant teenage girls enjoy their moments in the spotlight -- until the first all-nighter with the crying baby arrives. The 7:35 tardy bell means nothing at this point.

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freeradical 06/09/13 - 09:18 am
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Get Hall Up To Speed

Judge Hall is a little slow on the uptake here .

Marriage was polled as being the second most important issue

in the last presidential election .

Homosexual marriage that is .

They got this one judge Hall , and your buddies on the not so supreme

court are getting ready to finalize the deal at the end of this month with

a new federal law .

Having done that the next order of judicial business that will be acted

upon to help these youngsters will be to federally lower the age

of sexual consent so low that the kiddies can really get all the lovin

they need , and nobody will be able to be prosecuted for loving them

so .

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 06/09/13 - 09:26 am
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I must be tirning into a conservative

Yesterday's and today's editorials nailed it !! I always thought the "it takes a village" mind-set for raising children was taking it too far.

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 06/09/13 - 09:42 am
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Sexual discipline

Yesterday, I said that discipline was a major factor of a bad educational system. I think you could say the same for sexual discipline, as-well. If the government is going to mandate sex ed. in public schools, then a major part of this "education" must be sexual discipline !!

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seenitB4 06/09/13 - 09:43 am
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Beating a dead horse over & over

We know where the problems are.....we just don't have the backbone to solve it....
As sad as it might sound---we have to STOP paying women to have more babies....STOP the food & home bennies.....put it in action & the flood gate will stop...NOW how many will vote to do this...

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 06/09/13 - 09:54 am
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Social security / vs. welfare and Medicaid

I think it goes with-out saying, many single mothers have to have welfare, food stamps, and Medicaid to survive. ALL of these are paid for out of federal and state taxes !!

NOW, the idiots that run things, want to blame social security and Medicare for much of our budget problems !! The last time I checked a pay check stub, social security and Medicare are taken out of peoples' pay. How in the name of fairness can these idiots in Washington, DC and the state capitals even DARE to complain about social security and Medicare when I don't hear a thing about ""THE TAX GIVE-AWAY PROGRAMS"" !!!!

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faithson 06/09/13 - 09:54 am
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and

how's that 'abstience' message doing... it is time for the 'village' to talk about less, out only way forward is to have less. Now how we get there by moral and ethical means IS the question. No politics, NO religion. Why we cannot talk about consequences upon the individual who shows NO responsibility is beyond me. A cogent disscusion is in order.

t3bledsoe
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t3bledsoe 06/09/13 - 09:59 am
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"We know where the problems

"We know where the problems are.....we just don't have the backbone to solve it....
As sad as it might sound---we have to STOP paying women to have more babies....STOP the food & home bennies.....put it in action & the flood gate will stop...NOW how many will vote to do this..."

Well stated seenitB4. NOW, the question is, "How do you stop this "run-away train" now that it has been this way for decades ??!!"

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oldredneckman96 06/09/13 - 10:28 am
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DNA
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Every one has DNA and that will tell you who the father is. When a mother applies for wealfare, she can either show the police paperwork showing she was raped, (all the support in the world for her then) name the father, or submit the child for DNA test so the father can pay to support the child. If the father will not support the child, put him on a chaingang so he will not father any more children.

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soapy_725 06/09/13 - 10:33 am
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Remember Government Logic 101
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All things are not as they seem. Hence, "The Great Society". In that day good will be called evil (politically incorrect) and evil will be called good (politically corcect).

Hillary is a true believer. Baptized in collective human management. A dictatorial, slave state lover. Whether you call it socialism, progressive, Marxism, Leninism, Communism or whatever, it leads to a totalitarian state. Owning all and controlling all. Sort of like GOD. But really god because there is no God of Heaven. Because it is a religion, pure and simple, with true believers ready to die for their savior. Hillary doesn't care about the children or the village. For Hillary they are simply tools of the STATE.

Cuba has a great village. The test tube of modern communism.

"The definitive child issue of our generation.” Why? Because that is the target audience for a totalitarian state. The future generation. The minds that are like sponges.

faithson
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faithson 06/09/13 - 10:33 am
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STOP... then what ? we allow people to starve, we increase the buggy pushing population, we open up an entrance gate at the richmond county landfill for those who need to feed and cloth their families, those of us who live without entrance gates must fear for our families and possessions as the predators are unleashed to feed their family, what real end can come from just 'leaving them in the gutter to fend for themselves'... think it out, look at other societies, especially south america, to see what comes of not taking care of the poor and irresponsible amoungst us. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, now THERE is how you treat a 'runaway train'....

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Jon Lester 06/09/13 - 11:21 am
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The proverb originates from a culture of strong families.

American family and civic life already had its failings long before Hillary ever came along, and contrary to what people think they're doing as they're attempting it, "faith-based" approaches haven't really yielded any net gains, either.

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puppydog 06/09/13 - 11:43 am
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Role models (not) on TV

When was the last time you saw a Hollywood starlet who was married BEFORE she had a baby (or even after the baby was born)? It is the norm now in Hollywood & is not shunned by the media at all. And I'm talking about people line Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Johnny Depp, Kim Kardashian, Khourtney Kardashian, maya rudolf, Halle berry, heather Morris (Brittany from Glee), Jamie Lynn Sigler, Minnie Driver, January Jones, Bristol Palin, etc etc. it is now glamorized on TV shows that they are part of and they are highlighted on entertainment shows all the time. Young people see it on TV and in the news and it is no longer stigmatized.

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grouse 06/09/13 - 11:46 am
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The Chronicle has offered no
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The Chronicle has offered no evidence that the two incidents listed were caused by single or poor parenting. For a newspaper that extols personal responsibility, blaming the actions of individuals on their parents (without any evidence) is sort of ironic.

Ms.Anthrope
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Ms.Anthrope 06/09/13 - 11:52 am
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the answer is....
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set up sharia law. When an unmarried female becomes pregnant.... blame her and stone her to death. Now, you will not see her repeating that mistake again........

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ColCo 06/09/13 - 12:55 pm
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Judge Hall...

Thanks for having the courage to tell it like it is because our elected officials are too afraid of the consequences at the ballot box to do the same.

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KasparHauser 06/09/13 - 03:34 pm
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Business as Usual
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So, again the AC editorial staff come to the rescue, but are too chicken to put their NAMES on their in-duh-vidual contributions to the piece.

Once again, we hear that the powers-that-be apparently want to dismantle The Great Society and all the 'damage' it's done.

But, again, that shouldn't be news, because the trogs at the AC are still trying to repeal The New Deal.

Time to pull the plug on the life support from Uncle Billy M and make them actually earn a living, or let someone with a pulse and also below the age of 75 have a crack at telling the area what their opinion should be.

Makes you sorta understand why invalidation of the Voting Rights Act is so important... with a certain segment of the hot-air crowd around here.

And, btw, do the 'christians' here want to remove the food from the mouths of all those children with foolish parents who are allegedly getting rich on The Great Society? Will they step in and start handing out fishes and loaves to ALL the hungry, ALL the time, regardless of how their pocketbooks get pinched by their rising cable bills?

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KSL 06/09/13 - 03:37 pm
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faithson

Get a gun and shoot anyone breaking in to your house. Make certain they are inside.

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Darby 06/09/13 - 04:30 pm
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The editorial and Judge Hall's

speech are both inspiring and informative.

Too bad that neither will make an iota of difference whatsoever in the real world.

Only an earth shaking epiphany by those who control the national dialogue can stop our society's slide into oblivion.

And that is not going to happen to the liberal left or their cheerleaders in the media anytime in the foreseeable future.

They remain absolutely convinced that they are on the right track to a socialist utopia.

Their motto should be (and probably is), "Don't bother me with the facts, my mind is made up".

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deestafford 06/09/13 - 04:23 pm
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Any welfare support should come from family, friends, church,

city and county. That's it. If they go face to face with the people who are giving the assistance rather than a faceless Santa Claus in DC maybe they would be more ashamed and change their behavior.

If someone is concerned about people starving and dying in the street, what was the system before the federal government got involved in the 60s?

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myfather15 06/09/13 - 04:28 pm
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faithson is right, in a way!!

But this scenario is already happening in society, as we speak (type). These people are the ones breaking into homes, while the decent citizens are at work; only to come home to find their homes burglarized and the possessions they worked hard for, gone.

These are the same TYPE of people that are stealing all types of metal and selling it at scrap yards. Why? Because they can't hold down a job while doing meth, cocaine, marijuana, pain pills and drinking excessive alcohol. They can't show up at a job on time, daily; so they go around on THEIR OWN TIME, stealing other peoples stuff to support their habits and lifestyles. If you haven't been a victim of a theft or burglary yet; consider yourself lucky, because it's happening daily in this area.

Would it get worse if we cut off government assistance? Probably, but should we NOT do something to make sure those getting assistance are DESERVING; and not bilking the system because of being sorry pieces of filth with no moral standards? I can't count the amount of people I've arrested that have been on government assistance but had plenty of alcohol and drugs in the possession. In my opinion, if you can afford your alcohol and drugs, you can afford to pay for your food and shelter. ONE failed drug test and you're off government assistance for two years; and 2nd failed drug test and you're off for 5 years. 3rd failed test and you're off for LIFE. How does that sound?

Bottom line is; we don't know peoples souls. We aren't mind readers and it's hard to determine if someone is honestly in need of help, or just disgusting cheaters bilking the system.

There are only two ways WE can live in a peaceful society. Either those who would willfully cheat and lie to get something for nothing, change their ways of THEIR OWN FREE WILL; or they will have to not be present in society anymore. There is ONE who knows their souls and EXACTLY what they're doing and YES; they will either change of their own or HE will do away with them. THEN, we shall live in a peaceful, successful society.

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Ms.Anthrope 06/09/13 - 04:32 pm
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there is always....
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roadkill that can be cooked up.... and bugs are said to be full of protein ... people in third world countries eat them .... and then there is always the choice of cannibalism ... it worked for those at Jamestown....

Ms.Anthrope
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Ms.Anthrope 06/09/13 - 04:34 pm
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and......
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I am sure that we can expand the soup kitchen programs that so many are fond of...........

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