Daughter on quest to find sperm donor

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Here's what Lindsay Greenawalt knows about her biological father: He's 49, has brown hair, green eyes and was a senior in college in 1982.

"We're not looking for a dad. We're just looking for answers."

-- Lindsay Greenawalt, donor conceived  Special
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"We're not looking for a dad. We're just looking for answers." -- Lindsay Greenawalt, donor conceived

It took her years of searching, dead ends and false hopes to scrape up that little bit of information.

What she really wants more than a description though is a name. All she has right now is: Xytex donor 2035.

The man who supplied half of her genetic makeup was a donor to Xytex Corp.'s sperm bank in Augusta. He donated for seven years beginning in 1982.

Greenawalt, who was born and raised in Ohio, knew from an early age that she was donor conceived, but it wasn't until she turned 18 that she began her quest in earnest to find out who her real father is.

"We're not looking for a dad," Greenawalt, 25, said. "We're just looking for answers."

She chronicles her search and the accompanying emotions on a blog dubbed Confessions of a Cryokid. The blog began as an outlet for her frustrations, but it's since grown into a catchall Internet resource for donor-conceived children, their parents and sperm donors.

Greenawalt feels strongly about ending anonymous sperm donation and candidly shares her opinions on the emptiness she sometimes feels about not knowing her true father.

"There seems to be an overwhelming majority of recipient mothers that truly believe that just so long as they love their child, that he or she won't feel any loss of their biological father. I would like to stand up and say that this is nonsense," Greenawalt writes in an entry from March 15, 2008.

A recent survey by the Commission on Parenthood's Future titled My Daddy's Name is Donor implies that Greenawalt is not alone in her feelings. The survey of 485 donor-conceived children showed that they are more prone to depression and anxiety in comparison with other young adults.

The Internet is a vast resource for children searching for their parents and Greenawalt discovered through the Web that she has a half-sister living in New York City named Robyn Hasty. A DNA test proved they are kin.

When they finally connected, they discovered the problems inherent with starting a relationship with a complete stranger.

"To reunite with someone you've never met is a very difficult process," Greenawalt said.

Greenawalt and her half-sister share some commonalities, but they are polar opposites in their looks and opinions about donor conception.

While Greenawalt won't rest until she finds her answers, Hasty said she only has a "healthy curiosity" about her biological father. She would rather have some questions answered without starting a relationship, but she realizes now that's an impossibility.

Hasty would be OK if she never met her biological father.

"I feel grateful," Hasty said. "My life is here because of this person I've never met."

Greenawalt doesn't know whether her father is from Augusta or even went to school here. Her interests have long revolved around the medical field and she's currently working on her masters degree in library science. She's always wondered if perhaps her father was a student at Medical College of Georgia.

The best result in her search so far is a recent medical history she requested from him via the sperm bank. At the least she wants to know whether she's at risk for breast cancer or whether there are any genetic disorders her future children might face.

The medical history was returned to her, but there was no note from him attached.

A year has passed since she received that medical history and there's still no word from him. Greenawalt has decided to leave future communication up to him.

"The ball is in his court. If he wants to get to know us he can find us," she said.

Associated Press reports were used in this article.

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jiclemens
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jiclemens 08/20/10 - 07:18 am
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Catchy headline...

Catchy headline...

PUPPYMOMMA
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PUPPYMOMMA 08/20/10 - 07:48 am
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I doubt if the sperm donor

I doubt if the sperm donor wants to be "found".

beboisme
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beboisme 08/20/10 - 08:16 am
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Thier are too many questions

Thier are too many questions I had to ask myself as I read this story's headline.

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overaugusta 08/20/10 - 08:26 am
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interesting article. maybe i

interesting article.
maybe i missed it but what answers is she looking for? im sure it'll be something like, "sorry i was broke at the time and it was fast/easy money"

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TrukinRanger 08/20/10 - 08:58 am
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If he was a sperm donor for 7
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If he was a sperm donor for 7 years... then he could be one of the guys living under the 13th street bridge. I would rather NOT know my father if I was just a donation for a little beer/drug money. I personally don't believe in this anonymous sperm donation idea.

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TrukinRanger 08/20/10 - 09:35 am
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If he was a sperm donor for 7
Unpublished

If he was a sperm donor for 7 years... then he could be one of the guys living under the 13th street bridge. I would rather NOT know my father if I was just a donation for a little beer/drug money. I personally don't believe in this anonymous sperm donation idea.

Richmnd Cty Votr
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Richmnd Cty Votr 08/20/10 - 10:29 am
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LOL Trukin! I must be missing

LOL Trukin! I must be missing something about having children. You watch parents of other countries and this one. They can NOT afford the ones they have and then they choose to have more. In other countries, these folks cant even afford to feed themselves, yet they watch after child after child dies. Yet they continue to have more children. When does the brain kick in and say. Hey, I can't feed this child, guess I will not have another to watch it suffer? Are these folks that irresponsible and stupid, does the act mean more than watching your children starve to death? I just dont understand.

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Ushouldnthave 08/20/10 - 03:20 pm
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I'm quite sure he has no

I'm quite sure he has no interest in knowing where he seed landed. He was in it for the money. Period. End of story. And votr, did you mean other countries or other counties (I see plenty of the same thing in the good ole USA)

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DaddyFrog 08/20/10 - 11:25 pm
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I've always wondered what the

I've always wondered what the odds were of a half-brother, half sister (same sperm donor different mothers) meeting up and marrying.If he did this for seven years he could have fathered dozens of children. Didn't anyone think about the possibility of incest ?

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