Should we tell our Jewish friends to "just get over" the Holocaust?
Should we expect World War II veterans to "just get over" Pearl Harbor?
Should we tell abused women to just tape it up and get back in there?
If we asked the United Nations to apologize for allowing the genocide of 500,000 Tutsis in Rwanda, should the secretary-general say, "Just get over it"?
Is it, therefore, anywhere in the neighborhood of fair to expect African-Americans to "get over" slavery?
Yet, that was the flip remark from a Virginia state lawmaker, Frank Hargrove, as the commonwealth debated issuing a formal apology for slavery.
You don't just "get over" the wrongful imprisonment, even torture, of your ancestors. You don't just shake it off.
Nor is slavery's legacy something blacks have to deal with alone. Society has a whole needs to work through this thing.
You don't just get over it. You work through it.
Ironically, where Hargrove is concerned, a lot of folks feel an apology would help do that.