Cher in the City: 'Think Like a Man' offers insight

I got a chance to check out the new movie Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey last weekend. Think Like a Man is based on Harvey’s bestselling relationship book Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man. The movie, like the book, is funny and informative.


In spite of predictions to the contrary, Think Like A Man debuted as the No. 1 movie at the box office. It brought in more than $33 million, according to studio estimates Sunday. That’s almost double what studio executives had expected.

For those who have not had a chance to read the book, Harvey makes some interesting points that, of course, could not be elaborated on within the constraints of a two-hour film.

For example, Harvey shared that men have an interesting way of selecting their ladies. He even goes so far as to suggest that some men see women as a sport.

Harvey appears to give us the entire Man Law playbook with the book and now the movie.

As if to take a page from reality TV, there is a scene in the movie where the men find out that their ladies are using information from the book to get what they want from the men.

They, of course, feel betrayed and although humorous in the movie, they get a little angry at Harvey for giving out their secrets.

I think both the book and the movie do a good job of helping us ladies realize one fundamental thing about love and relationships. Harvey says it best:

“Newsflash: it’s not the guy who determines whether you’re a sports fisher or a keeper – it’s you. (Don’t hate the player, hate the game.) When a man approaches you you’re the one with total control over the situation – whether he can talk to you, buy you a drink, dance with you, get your number, take you home, see you again, all of that. We certainly want these things from you; that’s why we talked to you in the first place. But it’s you who decides if you’re going to give us any of the things we want, and how, exactly, we’re going to get them.

“Where you stand in our eyes is dictated by YOUR control over the situation. Every word you say, every move you make, every signal you give to a man will help him determine whether he should try to play you, be straight with you, or move on to the next woman to do a little more sport fishing.”

– Steve Harvey,
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment


Ladies, I suggest you see the movie if you haven’t and, guys, don’t get mad. Like Harvey says, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.”